🤗 that’s truly a very very very difficult situation to be in. I know when I go to visit other people sometimes it really sets off my OCD because not everyone lives the way we do. Calming down is a very difficult task I mean the only thing you can really do is try some breathing techniques. If you’re going to be there long-term then you might as well just clean and get it over with because you will be in a constant state of anxiety if you don’t. I wish I had a better answer for you but that’s what I would do I would just clean it and try to talk to the people living there without offending them.

Tbh and I say this as someone who has ocd and knows how utterly terrifying it is— it’s impossible to be fully accommodated. I always want constant reassurance and any and all triggers to be neutralized. But that’s not life. I can’t control everything, and trying to keeps me back from enjoying life. Personally, I’d recommend exposing yourself suuuuper briefly to those triggers, then walking away. Not cleaning yourself, not reassuring yourself that you don’t have to worry, but just simply walking away and accepting the feeling. It’s a **** feeling, but it’s one you will survive, and one that makes you more resilient as you slowlyyy increase the level of challenge