Dealing with the Fear of My Abusive Ex's Return

I would say avoidance is your best choice. Don't hide out and show him how scared you are, but definitely don't seek him out. He wants that control over you. Just act like he doesn't exist anymore. It's your life now, not his. You can do this. ❤️💕

Avoid him. Showing off how well you're doing could trigger his need to feel in control again. I have a person like this too. One that I still check parking lots for before I get out of my car. And every time I see a face/body build similar to his, I pause for an extra moment, just to make sure it isn't him. It does get exhausting.

If it were me personally I would avoid him because if he’s interested in you really he’s gonna find people to question and keep tabs on you and he will lowkey know you’re doing better and possibly reach out just cause that and/or just cause he’s toxic. Do what’s best for yourself and your son!