Dealing with Annoyance in a Friendship

i definitely relate to this - i could absolutely hate something but if someone else wants to do it i will or if someone doesn’t like me i’ll try to change myself to appeal to them - but then i thought y? ya know…like y was i putting myself through all this trouble just to please someone or be perfect to someone if they aren’t perfect to me - in ur case if she annoys u and doesn’t change her way of doing things then u shouldn’t either. idk if that was any help but for me i just had to change my way of thinking about the situation 💕

I totally understand that. I felt that way with my friends for a long time and still do sometimes. The one thing that helped me was I asked my bestfriend to point out if I was being annoying as it was happening. So I know what I'm doing and I can try to be better about it. It made me less anxious that way too because they don't have to explain what annoyed them and why because it's as it happens. Even if it's just something small at first and working up. Hope that helps