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indigho3

689d

is anyone else hyperfixated on how they're being socially perceived in public? it's easy to not care when I'm at home in bed, but work feels four times as hard because I'm terrified that I seem stupid or cold or weird or self-obsessed, or that I've hurt someone or everyone is annoyed at me or thinks I'm ugly, and it takes most of my energy to overcome the initial fear, pretend it isn't there, and then overcompensate by self-validating as a defense for anything anyone could say. I can never just say hi how are you, I'm shaking thinking about it

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    • Tad23

      688d

      I struggle with this type of thing as well. It can help me sometimes to put the negative thought into perspective, such as when I feel anxious about the way I look pushing the grocery cart or something of that nature. I tell myself that I am just doing what everyone else around me is doing and this helps. Also, trying to smile helps detur these types of thoughts like when I am at work and I feel like I look weird or don't seem social.

    • Lily0318

      687d

      I'm always thinking about how dumb I look walking

    • Tad23

      688d

      I struggle with this type of thing as well. It can help me sometimes to put the negative thought into perspective, such as when I feel anxious about the way I look pushing the grocery cart or something of that nature. I tell myself that I am just doing what everyone else around me is doing and this helps. Also, trying to smile helps detur these types of thoughts like when I am at work and I feel like I look weird or don't seem social.

    • unicornlady90

      688d

      That's exactly how I feel! Sometimes it's hard to differentiate between what you feel people think and what they actually think tho. Especially when the two sort of collide at times.

    • ambll1031

      688d

      This is exactly how I feel!

    • Theafae

      688d

      I do this all the time! I remember I was dancing to live music the other day and I love to dance but for some reason I couldn't shake the feeling like everyone was staring at me and judging how I was dancing so I kept being all weird and even my friends noticed and we're like are you good... And especially if I'm feeling insecure about something already I will get hyper focused on everyone else seeing it the same way that I do that I look too big or I'm showing too much skin or whatever it may be, AKA yes I understand, I hate it

      • indigho3

        688d

        @Theafae I feel this!! Social anxiety is a ridiculous amount of extra work, it's hard to really be in the moment :(

    • Josie1995

      688d

      I have felt this way most of my life, so tiring. šŸ˜µ

    • poptart1994

      688d

      This is exactly how I feel.. I feel like I come off as unapproachable and mean when really I'm such a caring person, I'm just always scared I'm being laughed at

    • PruneyHam

      688d

      I'm always in my head thinking people hate me, think I'm fat, annoying, too shy, stupid, etc. I know it's in my head but sometimes seeing how people act is hard to invalidate those thoughts.

    • Lizard85

      689d

      I can totally relate. I would never come out of my house if I didn't need stuff #realtalk

      • indigho3

        688d

        @Lizard85 same. I prefer my inner world to the outer one

    • wildflower440

      689d

      You explained it perfectly

    • Munch

      689d

      I completely get you! I can being, as I call it, ā€œunapologetically loudā€ (not volume, just my real self) at home and thereā€™s no critics.

      • indigho3

        689d

        @Munch right? It feels like the one place I can be totally relaxed

        • Munch

          689d

          @indigho3 I have my dogs and they donā€™t mind me. My husband is used to everything after 4 years

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