Need advice on dating a guy who makes me anxious

My rule of thumb is "How do they act if I do the same thing?" And "Who is 'at fault'?" If it's communication, you can say what you need and he'll accept or at least listen and try to find a work around when it's possible. What he says something about can make a big difference. His emotions about any anxiety or other things should still focus on you. Being sad you're having a bad day is totally understandable, canceling plans because of anxiety sucks. But 'im upset or sad because you're not doing what I want. And I'm not bringing you into the picture, even though I know you can't help it, it's your fault.' That is a big no no. He also might be bad at communicating, or have some nero-divergency that affects his communicating. Be careful and pay attention to his actions.