My Mom Doesn't Believe I'm Autistic

this is more of a rant but CW for bad textures, specifically dirty dishes and stuff like that i hate my mom's logic. "i don't think youre autistic but i do believe you have sensory issues especially around dirty dishes and loading the dishwasher that make you want to have a meltdown but i dont care, you're going to load the dishwasher anyway and then i'll make fun of you for complaining about it." this happens with so many other things, too. she doesnt believe im autistic but then judges me for things i do because of my autism some examples include: -swaying/rocking back and forth -not being able to make friends with people different from me -being a very picky eater and not easily willing to try new foods there's also talking fast but that's probably because i also most likely have ADHD. and there's so many other things she judges me for that arent my fault. i dont understand how she sees me do all of these things but then says "there is no way you have autism."