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Tired of Being Misgendered: A Trans Person's Struggle

Abysall

503d

I'm so tired of being misgendered. I can't wear a binder because I wore it for way too long and now I can't wear one at all without being able to breathe, I can't wear trans tape because it literally tears my skin off. I'm constantly getting misgendered by everyone and even people who know I'm not a female, still call me she/her. I use he/him pronouns for everyone else's comfort even when most people know I prefer they/them and still won't use them. It feels like everyone sees me but no one hears me and I'm so sick of being this way. Sometimes I wish I had just stayed in the closet and not come out as trans so that it would be easier for everyone around me but if I did that, I don't think I'd be around right now. I'm so stuck and sick of everything constantly and I don't even know what to do anymore.

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    • Ezra02

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      @Abysall Glad to hear your family is mostly supportive! Bruising on the ribs can take a couple weeks to go away but you’d probably feel it more than anything. I also wore compression shirts under my regular clothes during the winter to help as well. I hope work gets better for you. A good haircut and lots of patience helped me get through most of the struggles. I hope you are able to flourish! I appreciate the kind words back as well :)

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    • Abysall

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      I really appreciate that, thanks. I'll definitely look into the sports bra's 😁 I went to the hospital a bit ago because I had long COVID and my chest was really bad and they did blood works and did an x-ray scan and they couldn't find anything, they said I was healthy but I don't know that can check for bruising, I don't usually like hospitals, last time I went I had a panic attack 😅 but I'll see if I can get checked for bruising of my ribs. I always use baggy things anyway but it's a bit harder at work, I used to be a waiter but got deadnamed and misgendered on purpose so often that I changed to housekeeping where I get it less but still get it. My family luckily have been supportive from (almost) the get-go, my mum still deadnames from time to time but she's doing pretty good for a 54 year old women, I guess 😂 thanks a bunch for replying, there's not many trans people I can get in touch with in my area so I appreciate it a lot, this was mostly just to rant and I didn't expect a reply so I really do appreciate it 🙂 I'm here if you ever want to talk to

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      • Ezra02

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        @Abysall Glad to hear your family is mostly supportive! Bruising on the ribs can take a couple weeks to go away but you’d probably feel it more than anything. I also wore compression shirts under my regular clothes during the winter to help as well. I hope work gets better for you. A good haircut and lots of patience helped me get through most of the struggles. I hope you are able to flourish! I appreciate the kind words back as well :)

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    • Ezra02

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      Hey, fellow trans folk here. Some recommendations- a sports bra with the cups taken out can do wonders, you should get your ribs checked out for binding for too long (I bruised mine once doing it, better safe than sorry), and baggy shirts all the way. When I first came out my parents were completely against it. Took years of back and fourth bickering. What I learned is sometimes you simply have to treat people like children for them to understand. I’d refuse to respond when called my deadname and only would react when called my actual name. I had some friends who would correct people, and I did my best to correct people when I felt I could safely. I promise you it gets better. I used to feel so unbelievably alone in the world. Now I live with my girlfriend and bearded dragon. I couldn’t have ever imagined that for me. My DMs are open. Please let me know if you need advice or just want an ear. As a heads up I am 20, use he/they, and am a psych major studying to be a therapist. I’m told I’m a good listener. I hope things get easier soon. I’m sorry you’ve had to be patient for so long 💙

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