adixon

34d

I'm really upset because someone who has been one of my closest friends for a decade now. I'm his longest running friendship to this day but I feel like he has been treating me like a second class citizen as of lately. I have gone out of my way so much to attempt to hang out with him, yet it feels like he just doesn't care at all.

We were supposed to hang out the night of New Year's Eve but he had to reschedule for Tuesday. I wasn't thrilled about it, but I didn't give him any flak about it and it was fine. Well, I ask him on Tuesday (01/03) when he's coming and he tells me later that night. Then 6pm rolls around and I ask again and he tells me a few more hours. Then at 10:30pm, I ask if he's still coming and he tells me he has people over and he didn't think he'd be this long. So I text him back, "tell them you have somewhere to be," and he just leaves my message on read. Then from 11pm up to 6am I end up messaging him 2 times and calling him 3 times just wondering if and when he's coming but he never answered. I haven't messaged or called him any more after that.

It just hurts so much that he blew me off like that, but even more so the fact that he won't even dignify me with a response.

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  • Leifie

    34d

    No one should be made to feel like they are less important in a friendship especially when plans are already made. Honestly I'd dump this friend cause you deserve better

  • Aly24

    34d

    One of the hardest things I’ve had to learn over the past year / two years is letting people go. We can’t force people to understand and/ or care. Sometimes long time friendship fade and people drift away. Our energy is so important. We can waste it on people that aren’t meeting us halfway. Maybe try talking to them and see why they’re backing away? Hope you guys fix things but remember that it’s okay to outgrow people too

    • Queeenie

      34d

      I agree with this comment. Something that comes with getting older is knowing when to let go of a relationship that isn’t working anymore. People grow apart, and that sucks sometimes, but we owe it to ourselves to let go of people who hurt us.

    • darklover

      29d

      I agree

    • justyourlocalcryptid

      29d

      definitely agree with all of this 🙌

  • Leifie

    34d

    I can't edit so adding: I've been in a friendship like that and it was painful as hell. I'm sorry you're going through this

  • leigh12

    34d

    nobody deserves to be treated as 2nd class by anyone. if they were really a friend they would be honest and try to reschedule it or fix the situation i’m here for you if you ever need to talk. my advice would be to try to fix it but if they dint make the effort to change anything it’s okay to let them go

  • Loki21

    34d

    It’s time to let go, I’ve had to do the same in the past and it’s for the better

  • Insomniastic

    34d

    Yeah I've dropped friends because of that and then they blew up on me saying I was the toxic one etc etc

    • Insomniastic

      34d

      They said I was toxic because I have severe depression

  • Sophlovesllamas

    29d

    I'm currently going through that with two separate friends. Reading these comments have definitely helped me. Thank you ❤️

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