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Bunny1218

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AITA Part II So bf and I have covid, at least we're pretty sure, and he had to go to the hospital. I called the ambulance, and they didn't want me to go with him, so I didn't. After a lonnnng night, and by that I mean I still haven't slept and it's 10:30am, he got released and got back home around 6am. We had planned for days to go to the pharmacy to get covid tests and vaccines, and we finally went and picked up the tests and some groceries. He's weak, and so am I, but I offered to carry both heavy bags. He refused, and we each took one. On the way home, I saw that he wasn't doing well, so I offered again to take his bag. He said no again. I tried telling him stuff like "You're doing great! We're almost there! You can do it!" and he didn't respond at all. When we got home, I said, "We did it!" and asked if he needed help up the stairs. He didn't respond, and came up right then. I kept saying that I love him, and that he did a great job, but what he said was, "You know, when you say that stuff, it makes me feel the opposite." I told him that I was trying to be motivational and just help him get home, and he said, "When you say stuff like that, it makes me want to curl up and die", to which i just said, " Wow. Okay." He said, "I don't know how to respond!", and I just said, "No, it's all good." I feel like I'm the worst, but I am also very pissed at him, because that hurt so much. I'm literally only doing what I can to make him feel better, and he treated it like it was worse than trash. AITA?? TLDR- I tried giving my bf motivational talk and he literally said, "When you say stuff like that, it makes me wanna curl up and die."

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    • tjazz

      443d

      NTA. When you are both feeling better I would talk to him. Some people find words of affirmation make them feel the opposite BUT if that has not been previously discussed how on earth are you supposed to know.

    • Calethea

      442d

      Perhaps learning some, "I" statements might help.

      • Bunny1218

        442d

        @Calethea how do you mean?

    • tjazz

      443d

      NTA. When you are both feeling better I would talk to him. Some people find words of affirmation make them feel the opposite BUT if that has not been previously discussed how on earth are you supposed to know.

      • Bunny1218

        442d

        @tjazz yeah, now I know lol. I stopped pouting and told him how it made me feel, and he apologized.

        • Bunny1218

          442d

          @Bunny1218 Also I know it looks like I was pouting for a long time, but I've been asleep for a while lol

    • BubbleGirl1

      443d

      I went back and read part 1 as well.... your bf is the a-hole... you're both sick why are you picking up 100% of everything. If it were me I'd just be taking care of me from that point... we're both adults he can care for himself then .... when he was to be nice a treat you like a human being then yall can talk

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