Feeling like a Jerk: My Social Anxiety is Taking Over

More than anything after reading your post, you seem like a very kind and thoughtful person. You can be blunt and maybe don’t always check your phone but that can happen to anyone! And being blunt doesn’t mean being rude, while sometimes it might come across that way, you can always go back and apologize and explain where you were coming from(while that can be really hard it can be really good so the other person doesn’t misunderstand you). Maybe you can try and talk to these coworkers about what happened and clear the air. I have similar thoughts like this when I talk with people and it always helps me to try and better communicate with them so they know where I am coming from. Communication is hard but can be so beneficial and worth doing the uncomfortable thing of bringing the topic up!

Hi! I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Sometimes we tend to catastrophize, and think that things are really bad when they’re not that bad. Sometimes we also worry about other people thinking certain things, when the thought didn’t even cross their minds. At any rate, even if you did make a mistake, all it takes is taking ownership of it and apologizing. You are not dumb, and you are not a bad person. The fact that you’re worrying about the possibility of having hurt someone’s feelings suggests you’re kind and considerate. 💖

I don't know what to say or what to do. I'm worse that a shy person. I'm rude, don't think of others.

I hope new coworker can really find someone to talk too.