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Wanting to Embrace the College Experience

Willowthepillow

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I want to drink, party, smoke and have the college experience instead of being cramped in my dorm all day studying or doing random bull. I went through that last year and I'm tired of being alone and not having a lot of friends. I now have a golden opportunity to do all of the above but I'm terrified. I know all the downsides, I'm in medicine. I could become addicted, I already have addictive behaviors. I also take three meds that all interfere with alcohol. I want to have the college experience but I'm hesitant and scared to even try it. Everyone in my life is telling me not to, but I don't know what I'm missing and I'm curious.

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    • wise

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      The college experience is just whatever you experience in college. Some people's college experience is partying and doing drugs, for others it's studying and spending most of your time in your dorm. Some people don't even live on campus, their college experience is just go to school, go to work, go home. It usually depends on your major, and if you're in medicine, it's not a surprise that you're spending most of your time studying 😅 you'll make friends in time, don't try to force it. trust me, the friends you make when you think you have to be making friends are not people you usually want in your life and aren't typically gonna be real friends to you

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    • ChristineD

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      There has to be a happy medium.

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    • Spuddy

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      Try “in moderation” like one glass of wine and an Arnold-Palmer non alcoholic drink

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    • dodge

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      come hang with me , get addicted to pets instead. or smoke some weed , not as bad for you as alcohol

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    • chihiro.sen

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      Luckily there are ways to have fun and bond in college without 'partying'. The dopamine hits may not be as strong, but i definetly have a few freinds that dont drink at all, some that do get togethers without drinking, and the rest can take no for an answer if i dont feel like drinking at a party/hangout. Buuuut i hang out with nerds, and it is harder to get together with people when you dont just go to random frats every weekend. This is not to discourage you, just giving realistic expectations. I hope you find happiness. For me, ive found a lifestyle where i only feel like going to a house party once a month, no frats. If you have an addictive personality it may be worth it to just not go. If you try other stuff and find someone who you trust to help you, try going to one just to find out what its like. I understand the curiosity.

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      • chihiro.sen

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        @chihiro.sen oh and as for the meds, drink mad slow, after your first drink keep filling up your cup with water until an hour has passed so your sure you've metabolized the alcohol so you actually know hard itll hit you. if its one 3%er dont worry, but keep track of how many youve had, and wait a while to see how shots and mixed drinks will effect you. Its not that much more fun to be more drunk, and drinking more will NOT get you drunk faster. Just always have the cup in your hand regardless if its empty, or full of water, that way no ones gonna target you and youll be less tempted to get another drink.

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    • justpeachyqueen

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      I completely understand where you’re coming from. I was so disappointed to feel like I was missing out on “the college experience” because I didn’t do these things either. But there are fewer people than you think that party like that. Plus, college is only a couple of years. You have to prepare yourself for the day it is over… will drinking/smoking help any of that? It will just begin a lifelong addiction that destroys your body. I know it feels like you’re missing out, but there is SO much more to college than this. Instead of trying harmful substances, consider joining clubs, going to games, etc. there are so many different things you can do, so do those! Your body will thank you

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    • Lucas.exe

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      I'm the complete opposite lmao. I'm going to school to go to school. I'm not paying 50k a year to party I'm paying so I can go to class and get a degree. I don't understand why people pay all that money to not focus on studies... plus drugs and alcohol are so bad for you. There is literally no pros to them...

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    • wise

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      The college experience is just whatever you experience in college. Some people's college experience is partying and doing drugs, for others it's studying and spending most of your time in your dorm. Some people don't even live on campus, their college experience is just go to school, go to work, go home. It usually depends on your major, and if you're in medicine, it's not a surprise that you're spending most of your time studying 😅 you'll make friends in time, don't try to force it. trust me, the friends you make when you think you have to be making friends are not people you usually want in your life and aren't typically gonna be real friends to you

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    • KarlyGalin

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      yuhhh

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    • KarlyGalin

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      party

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    • plant

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      I didn't go through college, so this will definitely be okay at best advice, but as someone who has addiction that runs in my family: Don't try anything that you would not be okay with doing for the rest of your life. Being more susceptible means that you will also have a harder time quitting, so while you can party and drink and smoke, make sure that if you're willing to do it now that you'd be okay doing it in the future. That doesn't mean don't do anything fun, but that does mean you should talk to people who are older and do drugs/smoke/drink. r/drugs on Reddit is a really good resource to talk to people who have both just started different kinds of drugs and have been doing them for longer than you or I have been alive. They can give you both stories of people who are doing great, people who are living boring lives, and people who have ruined their lives. No matter what, it is your choice, but make sure that you give yourself the best chance of making informed decisions.

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      • E_belli

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        @plant as a sober person who has had struggles with substance abuse since college, this is a great way to think about it. Very true. I was similar to what @willowthepillow is going through. I went to college having minimal/no experience with substances and wanted to try that life, I definitely regretted it. The first two years were fine as I was doing well in school and staying out of trouble until jr year I started drinking, smoking and using all kinds of drugs. It was fun when I was doing it. Lots and lots of fun. But I almost flunked out of college. And spent 10 years using everything that I could, everything except the super hard drugs like meth, heroin and cocaine (bc I knew I'd be hooked immediately and probs OD). I wasted so much time “having fun” and knowing the risks going into it and thinking it was only gonna be college. I lost so much time, my marriage, all my friends and almost my career and I'm only 30. Now I have nobody in my life but my small family and my pups and luckily I was able to hold onto my career, barely. It's lonely. Now I'm sober and look back with regret. But looking at it this way is a good idea of future reality. Once you do it, you have to be okay with it being in your life forever. Such a legit statement. Thanks @plant

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        • plant

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          @E_belli I'm always happy to share the advice I have. You may be in a spot with very little, but try not to dwell on it as a negative. Remember that it gives you a chance to build yourself into someone new that you love to see in the mirror. It will take time, and one of the biggest things I want to remind you is that relapse is a part of recovery, not the end of it. I don't know how long you've been sober, but I'm proud of you and I hope you're feeling better each day. I hope you find such a wonderful support system

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      • Willowthepillow

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        @plant Thanks! Even though I don't really know where my life is going right now, this is still good advice since I can limit its negative effects.

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        • plant

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          @Willowthepillow absolutely. you have lots of directions and the last thing you should do is cut off options by making decisions you may regret. Try to remember the future is impacted by the current you. Dumb decisions are okay, but you have to make sure the consequences of those actions are something you're okay with following you.

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