Looking for info on Hypermobile bladder and EDS

So looking for info on just Hypermobile bladder. When u Google it EDS comes w EVERYTHING!! I have not been diagnosed yet w EDS even tho I know hypermobility is a symptom. What can cause this? I did have severe bladder issues that went into my kidneys in 3rd grade leading 2a week stay in the hospital and eventually antibiotics, penicillin specifically, for a year. Dr said if I kept getting infections like that I eventually Wud need a kidney transplant. So parents opted for the antibiotics naturally. They said at that age my kidney was as big as an adults. I eventually grew into it but had bladder issues my whole life UTI on and off. Unfortunately I passed the bad bladder 2 my adult child, she's 25 , she has UTI often and my 3yr old daughter just had her 1st 1. So now I'm even more concerned. Nothing was noticed, prior 2 having my 3yr old, w my bladder. I just found out this past year I was hypermobile. Misdiagnosed the 1st time w a herniation by an arnp. Guess it's pretty rare. Wud having a child and a bladder that has been thru all that cause hypermobility? I am 42yrs old. My urologist isn't gonna see me for another year. I'm on solifenacin 10 for the symptoms but only mildly works. Surgery isn't on my list ATM since I have a Murad of other health issues that are more pressing and Dr said it won't help some of the symptoms anyways. Is there a way 2 go about looking at my bladder more? Go more in depth? I had sonogram w urologist is all. Can I find out if it's my connective tissue, EDS? I have a referral for genealogy but Mayo only takes so many Medicaid patients a year and my office is more than busy and slow 2 do anything. Is there another way 2 find out ANYTHING? Can this b passed 2 my girls? What shud I do next? I'm getting nowhere w primary and pain management and urology. I know urologist said he wanted pain management 2 find out if it's my back issues and stenosis causing my bladder issues. Says possibly my back is causing nerve issues and the overactive part. I'm at a stand still w them and see the neurologist next week. What shud I say or ask? I need some help!! Thx for reading!! 😘