Ghostlyphantom

172d

Hey, I'm a 22 year old man who has a history of depression, and I was diagnosed with Autistic spectrum disorder as a child. I wanted to ask for advice on dating with Autism. Dating is already tricky enough these days, but when you add a mental disability to equation - well suddenly it feels impossible. I've spent years developing a persona to mask my shortcomings, and if you didn't know what signs to look for, you wouldn't even know I was on the spectrum. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, but with the lack of awareness surrounding the disorder, and the fact that dating for men in my generation is already tough enough; I just feel like I'll never find someone who is accepting enough. For those who have found success dating with Autism, or for those who know someone who has, I would really appreciate some advice on things i can do to better myself, thanks.

Depression

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

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  • mearbearz

    172d

    Hi! So I know this sound super cliché but trust me, this took me a while to learn as someone who has been very autistic most of my life. Just be yourself and more importantly be yourself **confidently**. Yes you will come across and weird and dorky, but people will get over it and will begin to really appreciate it. At least with the people that are worth your time. Try not to worry too much what people think about you, easier said than done, but it will just save you so much stress if you can learn not to worry about it too much. And I know man, it’s hard being autistic out there with other people— our lives were not set on easy, but it was the hand we were dealt. We just gotta try the best we can with it. But as long you are firm and resolute to remain yourself no matter how other people react, I think a lot of girls (or guys!) will admire that about you.

    • Ghostlyphantom

      172d

      I appreciate the advice. This is the first time in my life that I'm taking steps to learn more about my disability, and I'm very grateful for platforms like this. Confidence isn't really the struggle for me. I think the issue is the people I'm pursuing. You can't really identify an open minded person just by looking at them. I also don't share the fact that I have Autism to people, so in their minds I'm just "weird", or "too clingy". Should I be more open about it?

  • Zuma

    172d

    Hi. I’m having the same problem. I feel like I have a bunch of likes, but no one likes me back. If you need me, I’m there for you. We can both look for someone together. 👍

    • Ghostlyphantom

      172d

      in heat of the moment it's easy to feel like you're the one in world going through a particular type struggle, it can be confusing and isolating, but it's good to know that I'm not that only one, thank you.

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