Viynyl

36d

Question for anyone else who has TS / A tic disorder, Do you let people laugh/talk about your tics? I've always had the policy that if your my friend, feel free to laugh at my tics, but if I don't know you/am not good friends with you, I've taken it as kind of an insult and then get very self contious. I've had people tell me I shouldn't let anyone treat me like that but I've never minded if I were friends with the person. How do you all react when others react to you? I know I shouldn't let others dictate how I handle my disability, but I always end up giving it some thought anyway.

Tics

Tourette Syndrome (TS)

Wheezing

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

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  • Lethe

    36d

    It also depends for me. If I'm friends with the person, or have at least known them for a while to the point I'm comfortable with them, I say they can laugh and make jokes. Because hey, sometimes it's funny. It's hard to say it's not. Sometimes I bark at nothing, or make a really weird sound, or say something odd. One time at work I was talking with my manager and my friend (who also works there) and had been hitting myself in the chest. They were both ignoring it since that kind of thing was normal. Then I smacked myself in the throat-- choked, wheezed... and we all burst out laughing. I genuinely found it hilarious, because I wasn't hurt, and I was comfortable with those people. My friends and co-workers joke with me, unless I seem genuinely distressed about it, or if it's a bad tic day (I've worked there for like a year now, I'm pretty established with people.) In which case they treat it like it's nothing and are chill about it. If a stranger were to make a joke after seeing me ticcing, I'd be more put off, and probably pretty uncomfortable-- unless it were somebody else who had a tic disorder. They could relate and I'd know it's from a place of understanding. But otherwise, I don't know their intent, and they don't know me. But like you said, it's to each their own. If you're fine with joking with your friends, that's cool! Friends tease! And as long as it isn't crossing boundaries, and you don't feel upset, then great! The people who don't know you very well shouldn't be making those jokes if it upsets you, though. And you've got every right to make that point. Do what makes you comfortable :)

    • Viynyl

      36d

      Thank you so much, I've always been a bit scared to comfront strangers sp I will try my best, I'm glad I found someone who understands how it can feel :]

  • Wednesday_7

    36d

    It's pretty circumstantial for me. If the person has tics I'm comfortable with them making jokes about it. If they don't even though we're friends it's still kinda weird. If I don't know them and they don't have tics I don't like it when they comment on my tics. There is the exception of if it's something explicitly funny (like I jocular vocal tic or a motor tic with perfect comedic timing).

    • Wednesday_7

      36d

      My pet peeve is when people who know I tic ask if I'm okay or stare at me when I'm ticcing.

      • Viynyl

        36d

        That's also insanly frustrating, its also usually by people who I know but think I can stop whenever I want whitch is clearly not the case, I really dislike those types of people

  • dandelion_flower

    14d

    That's an absolutely valid way to feel about it. I also get very offended when strangers laugh at my tics, and it would annoy me a little if my friends did too, but it all depends on your boundaries and your feelings.

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