CandyFrog

254d

Is it common for someone with depression to not want/have the energy to get better?
I often tell people "I'll get better, I promise." But I just don't have the energy to try or do anything about it. I do weekly therapy which truly helps, but lately all I hear from people is "You don't want to get better, that's why you're not improving" and I tried defending myself by saying I just don't have the energy to heal myself, but I'm starting to think my brain genuinely doesn't want to in fear of falling down again and thinking it's easier to stay down then to stand back up.

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  • livvie361

    254d

    I feel this all the time. It's a lot about setting small goals for yourself with small rewards

  • Artsy64

    254d

    I once read “you’re not lazy. You’re taking up all your energy just to survive” and that made me feel better. I hope it helps you too

    • Unknow

      254d

      I saw that quote and that was on Facebook and that is true and it made me feel better too

  • GorgeousGeorgie666

    254d

    Talk to your doctor about Ritalin for TRD.

  • Unknow

    254d

    It is not helpful for people to say that you don't want to get better! It shows they don't understand depression or they themselves have not really had depression that bad. There is different degrees of depression. There's different kinds of therapy. There's cognitive therapy they're supposed to help with the way we think and how we perceive stuff. If our medications are not matched for us because we didn't tell them all our symptoms are we weren't 100% honest with ourselves and the questionnaires they give us or we didn't have family members help remind us of the other symptoms then it is hard for our depression to get better. I am proud of you for going to therapy but I wish somehow they can tweak it for you as an individual to help you better

  • carrielovelylady

    254d

    Yes and it's not a character or moral failing your brain is not producing enough of the right chemicals to give a F. I think most people don't understand that. I think sometimes working at trying to care is just where we are at sometimes.

  • Kira_Elyse

    254d

    Another thing to consider is that diagnostic criteria for depression includes “little interest or pleasure in doing things,” “fatigue,” and “lack of concentration” all of which make it extremely difficult to want ANYTHING let alone something as obscure and elusive as “getting better.” It’s a chicken and the egg scenario.

  • Unknow

    254d

    We don't have to necessarily call somebody a liar but it helps to Google depression and check all the symptoms and see how many symptoms we ourselves have and write them down. So somebody who is not knowledgeable there's tangible proof with depression is all about and all the symptoms that come with it. You may actually find this some of your friends have depression and they don't know it because they never googled it and didn't realize some of the symptoms so they have it themselves. I have done this with bipolar because of my husband and actually I realize there's a lot of people around me who have it and they have not seen a doctor and gotten help. It's hard to get better if people are not honest with themselves or they don't have information to help a loved one

  • livvie361

    254d

    just be careful with this because the dsmd is what's used to diagnose, not just because they hit a couple of notes on the list. Like I hit a lot of areas for schizophrenia but I have bipolar with psychotic features

    • Unknow

      254d

      yes when my husband was first diagnosed I checked out a lot of library books that would talk about mental illness but I was looking for charts. Schizophrenic and bipolar were overlapping on some symptoms and I asked my husband to ask his sister what her illness was. Her medicine is bipolar medicine but she was labeled schizophrenic.

      • livvie361

        254d

        yup, most medicine used to treat bipolar and schizophrenia are antipsychotics, and are versatile

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