Crippling Loneliness After a Rough Breakup

I am sending love your way

My boyfriend broke up with me after two years.. I was devastated.. I saw no worth in myself. So I decided to take the “fake it tilll you make it” approach.. we ended up getting back together and were together for three years and I broke off the relationship at the end.. it is crazy how time changes things and our attitudes towards them..

There is nothing wrong with letting yourself feel all of these emotions. He hurt you and ignoring that hurt of trying to force yourself to get over it before you’re ready invalidates you. But that said be careful to not get stuck somewhere you don’t want to be. Give yourself time and space to figure out which direction you want your life to go then take small steps in that direction. Indulge in self care but not the commercial self care fad. Indulge in true self care that helps your soul heal. Find one small thing to be grateful for and write these down. When you feel like there is nothing to be grateful for reread these notes to remind yourself of the good things in your life. Learn to trust yourself again then work on trusting others at your own pace.

I have been in your shoes many times and thought “I will never find someone again…” or “I’m never going to be good enough”… it’s so hard when you are dealing with a breakup and still having to go to school with the person. That happened to me too.. I know that nothing I say will take the pain away but I do know for a fact that as time passes it will get easier

Really sorry you’re going through this. Just know you’re not alone even if it feels like it.