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PrincessVioletta

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I did something I probably shouldn't have done. I've been trying to move on from a best friend break up for the past while, but I just looked at some old messages. At first it was fine since it was when we were friends, but then I got to one of our last conversations, and now I feel horrible. I don't necessarily see anything different from what I first saw. At that time, he still seemed to care even though it was best for him to leave. But it made me see how much he had changed from then to when he decided he wanted tocome back. Our last talk when he decided to talk to me, I didn't even recognize him. and when I asked why he wanted to get back in touch, he didn't know. When I asked if he had anything to ask me or say to me, he said he didn't. And it made me realize that even though I wanted to be his friend, I couldn't see a reason to rekindle that friendship due to his responses. When he messaged me, I had a panic attack, and during our final conversation, I felt like I couldn't breathe, so I as much as I wanted him to give me a reason as to why we should be friends again, nothing he said or did outweighed the pain being around him caused me. The only problem is that when I looked back, I saw the friend that did still care about me even if he had to leave for his well-being and wonder where he went by the time he decided to come back. It hurts, and I'd like to fully move on. I was almost there when he messaged me, but now it's been months and I'm still healing from the loss.

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    • shia33

      554d

      You may not be ready for this stage yet, but i found that deleting stuff gradually helps. I used to reread the conversation to see where I went wrong. Trying to piece together my part in the downward spiral of our relationship. However i came to the realization that it wasnt my fault it was whatever was going on with him. I will never understand because he chose to alienate me but I have to respect that whatever the reason he did it was for his own well being. Whether that be selfish or not i will never know.

    • shia33

      554d

      You may not be ready for this stage yet, but i found that deleting stuff gradually helps. I used to reread the conversation to see where I went wrong. Trying to piece together my part in the downward spiral of our relationship. However i came to the realization that it wasnt my fault it was whatever was going on with him. I will never understand because he chose to alienate me but I have to respect that whatever the reason he did it was for his own well being. Whether that be selfish or not i will never know.

    • Snapcracklepop

      554d

      I have had a ton of friend breakups with people I thought would be in my life forever. I eventually learned to stop myself from looking at past conversations as it only ever hurt. I know exactly how you feel wanting to be friends again but knowing it wouldn’t be good for you. I promise you will heal from the loss. I can’t tell you how long it’ll take, but you’ll get there and you’ll feel so much better without a person that causes you pain 💕

    • katiebug6

      554d

      I can relate. I have obsessed over losing friends I thought were like family to me. It hurts really bad. But people come into our lives for a reason and that reason may be only a season. Many relationships come and go. I hope this helps.

    • Kay2002

      555d

      I just went through old posts and messages with my ex best friend too. (which was also a bad choice for me lol) I understand the hurt. Trying to end things off on good terms can help with the healing process. Or even if you can't talk to him again, just take time to tell yourself that it's okay to move on, and the memories you made were happy memories at the time it was happening.

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