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marley121

393d

i fucking miss my groomer and it makes me sick. i miss the feeling of someone caring about me, i miss the way he would pretend to love me. he's disgusting but i miss him so much. i feel disgusted with myself when i feel like this. i shouldn't miss him, he used me. im disgusting for feeling like this

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    • 4byfour

      393d

      I’m so sorry that he did that to you. I wish I could tell you it’s all okay, I just don’t know how. You are _not_ at fault for anything you feel. You deserve to pursue self-autonomy. You are strong and valid.

    • JayFloyd

      391d

      What does shame do? The emotion itself. It's almost like stress, right? A fire that exists inside no matter what we do. It hurts when it flares up, and sometimes, it's just uncontrollable. Shame is wasteful energy. But you're adding gas to that fire when you insult yourself and apply hurtful terms. If you want to feel the pain, then add the fuel. But all it will do is hurt. It doesn't help. What would you tell your friend if they were saying to you what you said in your post? Would you tell them they're disgusting? Or are they human? Someone who experienced a very stressful and traumatic situation for an extended period of time. Someone who has a very deep emotional tie to an unhealthy individual. Those feelings you felt for the abuser were and are still very real. You love deeply, and you deserve that deep love back. Please be gentle with yourself, especially in times like these when you're in that mindset.

    • CrazyMeerkat

      393d

      You are not disgusting. He is disgusting for pretending to love you. You are genuine with your feelings. They will pass and you have learned a lesson and grow your experience. You will meet somebody who loves you the way you are or you will learn to be happy in your skin without the need of somebody beside you. Make your own happiness helping others everyday. You will receive more than you give.

    • Vyowleta

      393d

      I’ve been there before and I remember having this situationship with him for over 2-3 years, and it took me a while to realize just how unhealthy and disgusting it was until I finally grew older and cut him off. It was definitely difficult because there will be times I will get this urge to reconnect with him and relive the past convos I desired with him. I grew extremely depressed for like 7-8 months about it. However, at the time, I really struggled with self-esteem and seemed external validation from others. So back then he was like my only support system for it. And while we will often maybe miss the comfort they bring to us, I just want to let you know that these feelings are valid to miss the people that once brought us feelings of comfort and joy at some point in our lives. But it takes a lot of mental strength and courage to separate ourselves from those toxic relationships, and as long as you discover your own self-worth and realize that your life does not have to subscribe to only one person in your life, you’ll learn to also discover that you can still live and be in the moment without this person present in your life. I truly hope you find peace in the grieving process and I wish you the best of luck in life. Feel free to contact me if you ever need someone to talk to.

    • 4byfour

      393d

      I’m so sorry that he did that to you. I wish I could tell you it’s all okay, I just don’t know how. You are _not_ at fault for anything you feel. You deserve to pursue self-autonomy. You are strong and valid.

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It is not uncommon for people to miss their groomers, as they often manipulate and groom their victims into loving them. It's important to remember that your feelings are valid, but it's also crucial to recognize the harm caused by the groomer and work towards healing from the experience.

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