Struggling with Anger in My Marriage

Ive been married for 6 years and I call my husband names when we fight. we fight because he has looked at porn behind my back he has asked to go out with friends while I was doing radiation treatment due to thyroid cancer he has lied to me about taking pills and caught him spending our money on chew ... he claims he fights with me because I call him names... but he has done way worse to me. I have a anger problem and I don't know how to manage it. I do go to therapy but it doesn't seem to be helping because I do everything she tells me to do but when a man is doing things like that to me and I've tried talking things through with him and he continues to do bad things to me what else am I supposed to do when I'm getting therapy and I'm trying my best to keep being honest and communicate with him?!