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oasis

583d

no one listens to me. no one is an exaggeration but people definitely don't listen to me and I don't know why. regardless of whether I'm clear and assertive, they don't seem to care what I say. its like I'm speaking gibberish or bullsht nonsense and I'm so confused why it seems to be just me? I could say something and someone could repeat it word for word and they'll get the recognition and attention for it. I'm so tired of hearing that I'm not clear enough when ill say something thats returned with nonchalance and then later treated like I never brought it up at all. like are you fking with me? it pisses me off because I'm not stupid, half the time I think the other persons the dumb one but maybe thats just my ego talking

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    • sabbymer

      581d

      @Strawberryhk I feel this

    • LyricRainn111

      581d

      I’ve been dealing with this all of my life! Ugh. I understand how you feel 100% and I would do anything to find a group of people who actually listen to me smh.

    • NiqueMK

      581d

      I have a similar experience. It’s very frustrating. I’m not exactly sure why that is. I do tend to be more soft spoken but when i have something to say I speak up. What frustrates me more is when my doctor doesn’t seem to listen or take me seriously.

    • dolphinblues

      581d

      My husband only hears 1/2 of what I say or completely dismisses me. It seems like everyone else is just pretending to listen. It's so frustrating!

    • Strawberryhk

      581d

      When I talk people just say “what🤨” pretending like they heard me or it’s just silence after I say something. Might as well never talk to anyone because I make everyone akward

      • sabbymer

        581d

        @Strawberryhk I feel this

    • sabbymer

      583d

      I really feel this lately. My social anxiety does this to me and makes it hard for me to talk and hear. So people can never hear me because I can't really raise my voice if I'm not feeling confident. Which makes me fidget and stutter...I've been trying to build my relationships and it's the same where I feel like I've clearly said things but people just have their own view and don't always remember things I've said. I'm not sure what to do I feel like I've said things and nobody has liked how I've said them lately...

      • oasis

        583d

        @sabbymer i am the same with raising my voice. It feels like its stuck in my chest and fighting to make it out when I'm not confident in what I'm about to say. I also relate to how others interpret what you say, though a little differently because I can be very blunt and its often offensive unless I reword it but I just feel like I'm conforming and being disingenuous so I decide to stay silent. It takes a lot of work to rephrase and then I become more anxious about everything.

        • sabbymer

          581d

          @oasis yes! I feel disingenuous too when I'm not direct so I don't say things unless I really know what I'm talking about or I really have thought of a good response to some injustice. I hate injustice but my anxiety gets in the way. What helps is I think whether people are aware or not their aura recognizes your aura. They actually don't really like that we're so intune with ourselves and quiet and simple. They don't want to face themselves in order to be that way too 😌

    • K.C

      583d

      My mom and brothers are like that towards me. I’ve learned they’re toxic and it’s not me. Though truthfully I will still go “what did I do they came at me” “should I have said that back” then my husband has to remind me they’ve been doing it my whole life and I definitely have a right to defend myself and I don’t feel as bad anymore.

      • K.C

        583d

        @K.C Also the saying stuff back is usually once I reach my breaking point before that I take all of their ignoring me to a fault so much so that it ends up upsetting me and I have to kind of snap out of it and go no it’s not you it’s them.

        • oasis

          583d

          @K.C I'm glad you're in a place where you realize you're not the problem and your voice deserves to be heard.

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