violetred

272d

I'm 25 anyone else around my age feel like their parents completely messed you up? lol

Generalized pain

Anxiety (Including GAD)

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  • cat_cat7246

    272d

    I'm 24! And definitely feel that way

  • Lmoney

    272d

    31 here and yes definitely

  • ArtMouse

    272d

    Me too! Therapy is helping but I can't help but wish my parents had done a few things differently.

  • Jebender

    272d

    28 Don’t get me started 🙄 But its important to realize they had a past that messed them up too And now that we can look back and understand this, we have to ability to gain more self awareness “Know thyself” So it is our job to heal ourselves and our ancestral trauma There are a multitude of sources like this app, books, documentaries, mentors etc Ultimately I think that’s a big part of life, Moving from dissonance into harmony It’s all about the journey, mon

    • rmewes

      271d

      it's honestly a cool and encouraging concept to think of yourself as potentially being able to break the cycle of toxic parenting and untreated mental illness. I'd say anyone on this app is moving in the right direction at least!

  • koukee

    272d

    that's where i am at. i believe in them having the right heart, but they got messed up, potentially more, by their parents and their parents by their parents and it just goes back and back sometimes. we can put a stop to it by treating any kids we raise or friends we have the proper way and by getting the help that we need!

    • Jebender

      272d

      I agree And it helps me to remember the good things they taught me…and even some of the lessons they taught me through their ignorance, though I usually facepalm 🤦‍♂️ at those thoughts, and sometimes chuckle and laughter is medicine you know I also decided to not have children until I have…figured some things out But that isn’t always an option for others and as long as we are listening to our children, allowing them a voice and validating their emotions, and always seeking more wisdom and harmony I think we will be alright Reminding ourselves everyday of our blessings, while there are many who are struggling much more than even us

  • Lunarix

    272d

    Mentally and physically messed up by my parents here. Parents divorced, mom decided to sabotage my health in ways to try and get my dad in trouble, and said I was lying about my symptoms and so I never got help for anything until recently (Im 24). Mentally, well. Yeah. PTSD came mostly from the parents

  • wise

    272d

    oh absolutely. my parents sucked at being parents for their own reasons. my mom has come to terms with it, but my dad is still neck deep in denial. that's fine, he has his second chance wife and two kids. I think he knows how it'll go if I find out my baby siblings have the same dad I had. my relationship with my mom greatly improved after she acknowledged her shortcomings as a parent and I stopped thinking of her as my mother and started thinking of her as a roommate and friend instead. she was a terrible mother, but she's a good friend. I don't know if I'll ever have the same relationship with my dad, but I honestly don't care if I never hear from him again after his youngest child turns 18 lol

  • Delirium

    272d

    This Be The Verse BY PHILIP LARKIN "They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you. But they were fucked up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats, Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another’s throats. Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don’t have any kids yourself."

  • MrsJacobs22

    272d

    I’m 23 and as much as I love my parents, looking back, I can see so many toxic things they did. And I know it really messed with certain things and how I act today.

    • Betalou

      271d

      I understand. Your childhood can make you sick in later years. We think we are alright but deep within our subconscious is hiddenva lot of pain. 👍

  • malks

    272d

    24 and for sure

  • Waffles04

    272d

    28 and they’re still messing me up lol 😢 It’s confusing too because from what I understand, they had pretty decent parents. While I feel like now as an adult, I blame myself sometimes too for keeping the behaviors that I’ve grown to do. I’m trying to fix myself with years of therapy, but it’s hard to let go. Definitely anxiety, panic, paranoid, people pleaser, pushover, depression, non assertive, walking on eggshells, etc are still ruling my life for sure.

  • Natasha30

    272d

    30 and yes

  • Breyon

    272d

    Im 25 and I realized I had no value to my parents or my adopted parents. It's a hard pill to swallow but I'm healing every day.

  • Doglover25006

    272d

    I’m also 25 and trying to heal from the damage from my family and struggling

  • joyjoytsak

    272d

    My parents neglected me so I guess so.

  • Betalou

    271d

    Amen on that. I fully understand where you are coming from. If you woukd like to share, I am here! 🙏💕😥

  • Betalou

    271d

    You are very wise. I probably need counseling to fully understand what happened to me. My Mother did not have me until she was 43. She was also sick all the time with heart problems. They were too old to raise another child. I was very lonely and stayed to myself. Later on in my life I realized I needed to hear the words I LOVE YOU! They meant well but I ended up feeling unloved and alone.

  • rmewes

    271d

    I'm 25 and I feel your pain! I was raised by my grandma because my mom was a degenerate and my dad is the invisible man 😂 my grandma is a wonderful person but she was super religious when I was younger and it messed me up, among other things. Plus, she comes from a generation where mental health wasn't really talked about much, or where misconceptions were even worse than they can be now. She would just tell me to pray or read the bible. She's a lot less pushy these days and our relationship is pretty good. She still doesn't believe any diagnosis I get but hey, baby steps.

  • PEPhoenix

    271d

    Omg yes lol. Both are addicts and I feel like I raised myself in a lot of ways unfortunately. Sorry you feel the same. Im trying to process and heal from childhood which started around your age.

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