Struggling with Grief: Coping with the Loss of a Loved One

I went through hell the first year of not having my mom. I was only 10 so it was REALLY PAINFUL. 🙏🏻

You have to look at the grief you feel as the love you have that you want to give to the person you have lost. Its no so over whelming when you think of it as love.

24 my dad 19 my mum it still hurts but you will learn to live with it ❤️

Aww lovey....it is my 6th year and also my sister is 17 years this year...the pain doesn't get but gets a tad easier as time goes by ..just a tiny bit ! Also after some years you will have happy memories that don't hurt too much to remember ir photos that you can look back on and think where you were together and laughed, maybe the smell of her perfume will not reduce you to tears....me I am the emotional one and still cry most day... nothing wrong with missing bad and maybe not cope with it well...it is early days...sending healing love to you xx

I lost my mother as well, and every birthday of hers since then has an affect on me. Here if you would like to talk.

I'm sorry for your loss. Remember to take care of yourself and its okay to not be okay

I'd say just follow your feeling, the first year is bound to be rough, don't force yourself if you don't feel able to. I also suggest going and buying food and/or snacks that don't need to be prepared, and definitely a LOT of fluid. Stay hydrated, and eat at least something. You're feeling are completely valid, so cry as much as you need to. 💙

I know that can not be easy to deal with but honestly try to make the day of just celebrating what she was like and the memories you have with her

Make a day of it. Celebrate her life. What did she enjoy, what sort of things did you do as a family?

My Mam has been gone 10 years now. I still miss her every day. I really took her for granted. I wish I had told her how much I appreciated everything she did for me. I wish I could cook her a lovely meal. I couldn't cook before I moved in with my Brother that has Downs Syndrome. Do something that your Mum would have loved. Maybe go to a place that is special to you. Big hugs xxxxx

Years on and that is the day I let myself feel loss fully. Celebrate her birthday in a way that you can deal with. It might be having some cake and having her photo there with you. Lighting a candle in her memory. Going to a place she loved and thinking about the good times you had there. If need be, make sure you are not alone that day, with other people who had the pleasure of knowing her. Look after yourself

Big hugs xxxx I miss my Mam every day xxxx

I don't cope well. My hubby takes me out every now and then. My kids call and try and get me hooked to on line games we play together