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Bunn3y

397d

I’m really anxious about my relationship and it’s been starting to worry me. We recently went long distance a little over a month ago and things were fine until a couple weeks ago he started pulling back a little! This worried me a lot, so I talked to him about it and we discussed that it’s just really difficult and hard on him… but ultimately he reassured me that he still wants to be in it and is willing to put in the work! It’s only been about 3 days since that conversation (which obviously isn’t a lot) but I can’t shake the thought. He isn’t doing anything super different besides taking a bit longer to respond, but he’s truly just busy. But I’m now paranoid that in the end it’s just going to crash and burn and there’s no point in trying to make it work if it’s just going to end in failure! I have really bad anxiety, and have recently had to restart my meds which has made me a bit emotional. But I’ve dealt with this feeling before in a previous long distance relationship and I don’t want to go through that again. I also fear some of my anxious attachment traits are creeping up again, when I’ve managed to keep them at bay for the entire relationship. I don’t know what to do… I really like him, and I wanna make it work - I believe that he does too, he is an honest man and would tell me if he wasn’t interested. But now I can’t stop overthinking every little thing. Even the good things that happen - if he compliments me or says he loves me I fear he’s just lying to spare my feelings. I hate doubting him, and I hate doubting my trust in him! He’s never done anything that’s made me question his motives… yet now I’m constantly fighting with myself trying to convince myself nothing is wrong, while the other part of me is continuously making up scenarios for what might be. How can I calm myself down in this situation? I don’t want my worrying to be the reason the relationship dies but no matter what I do I can’t shake the feeling.

    • RandiJean

      397d

      Me and my boyfriend are long distance. Kansas and Florida. We both have super busy schedules but something that helps us is to prioritize time together. We'll play games, watch movies (teleparty) together, etc. Communicating is way way way more important in a long distance especially bc sometimes its hard to convey emotions over text. Sometimes we send voice messages to convey emotions more. I understand the anxiety definitely. Sometimes I question things but remember that hes choosing you rn. If he wanted to leave he could but hes not.

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