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Hello everyone, I am new here and I am really struggling right now. My best friend passed 2 years ago from diabetic ketoacidosis and she was only 39... It's very hard for me to reconcile why she wouldn't take care of herself and get better. I lived with her for 3 years and did everything I could to help her and in the end it wasn't enough. I think about her every day and I miss her so very much. Has anyone else been through something like this and if so what helped you cope?
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I am very sorry for your loss. I am sorry that your friend would not take care of herself. You did everything you could to help! You gave her the information she needed and offered her healthier options, but ultimately you could not control her choices. That is very hard to accept and understand. 🫂 🙏 💜 I use the serenity prayer a lot. It helps me let go of the things that are beyond my control. I have not lost anyone under those circumstances. But, I do know what it is like trying to help someone take better care of themselves, but they don't. It is beyond frustrating. My husband is like that and we almost lost him a year ago. He hates Drs and hasn't seen any for over 30 years, he is 51. He was throwing up blood clots when I finally got him to go to the hospital. His body was beginning to shut down because his diabetes was out of control (A1C was 13). It scared him so much that he has done everything possible to change, including seeing 5 specialists and a PCP regularly. Honestly though, if we didn't have grandkids (one of whom we have guardianship of), I don't think he would have taken it so seriously.
I’m sorry for your loss. I went through something similar back in 2005 with my stepfather. He had COPD but if he simply had stayed on oxygen, he could have lived for at least several more years. He was only 61. But he refused to wear the oxygen nose cannula and the lack of oxygen in his system caused him to have dimentia and he passed away in just a few months, causing my mom and brother and I great pain that he just gave up that easily. We all went through anger as well as sadness for a while afterwards. But eventually you reach the point where you decide you need to let go of the hurt and move on for your own sake. I focused on my son, who was only 2 at the time, and concentrated my energy on raising him. Not sure if that helps you, but I hope you find peace soon. ❤️
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