Struggling with Activation: Seeking Tips

What are your activation tips? My therapist and I agreed that I have a pattern of not ‘activating’ myself. I plan a date, I can’t get it started. I plan a study session, I can’t get it started. Etc. I mean, when there’s a lot of external pressure I can get stuff done, sometimes, but it’s really frustrating when I want to get something done for _me_ (like progressing through college) and I just…don’t. Luckily I’ve been doing these non-zero days, and that’s been great. And a point system. Anytime I do even the smallest task to get something started or make progress on something, I get a few points (which I can spend on favors with my boyfriend. Like he’ll do laundry if I get 10 points). This has helped, but I still can’t for the life of me get things going. Or to finish things. Do you have any tips for me?