depressed_introvert

228d

is anyone else the black sheep of their family and get blamed for everything?

Acute Anxiety

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  • loreee

    228d

    I'm the oldest and yes. Even though they always come to me for money or to fix something, I'm still the bad guy. My therapist suggested to distance myself. Still care for my family but set boundaries. My family hated it & treated me like I was turning my back on them, but I have personally been doing so much better. In the end its you who matters. Your mental health is more important.

    • SamsonCurioso

      228d

      I'm the youngest, by a lot. I know the condom broke. Lol. I went and am still going through a crisis. When, things are well with me my family turns to me as the fix it man, so I identity with you. During my crisis not much support was offered, I felt mostly criticism and derision, but I was still the fix it man. Ha. Some people are just takers. You have to set those boundaries. You'll be considered an a-hole, but remember NO ONE will ever take care of you. You must look out for you.

  • LadyTauriel

    228d

    All. The. Time. I'm the oldest and no matter what I do, it's never good enough. Breaking generational curses is rough, but totes worth it.

  • depressed_introvert

    228d

    Thats crazy im the youngest and everyone in my family blames me for everything.....i swear they would say im the cause of covid-19 if you asked them

  • Zetsumei2012

    228d

    I was the middle child and my step dad blamed me for everything and made me do most of the work. He treated me so differently than his daughters and it killed me inside. I just wanted a fun father figure.

  • Tata01

    228d

    I'm the oldest and for the longest time my mom blamed me for all the times my step-dad wanted to leave her since I was 4 and lots other things she projected on to me and so on. I kinda just don't talk about myself anymore to avoid getting blamed for anything. Still sucks to know you aren't really responsible for the things that get thrown at you but you had to spend years being angry and but not understand the reason bc mental health also wasn't a thing in your family. Generational curses are real but we can only recognize them and try to stop the chain for the future unfortunately.

  • Lucas.exe

    228d

    I'm the second oldest of all my cousins. I WAS the super amazing genius that was gonna do amazing things. Now I'm guilt tripped on the daily for not wanting to exist and depressed af with PTSD and anxiety.

  • haarlem

    228d

    Me.. none of my family even talk to me. And ill never understand what I did so bad. They don't talk to my children. It's likr we're all cut off without reason. It's sad still but I've learned I can't dwell on something that's not in my control. Slway have been the black sheep of both sides of my family. I think its because (for me anyway) I have a heart. I'm an empath and they're heartless and don't understand the special gift I was given to read body language or to feel when something is off or you're being lied to or taken advantage of..

    • klazikel

      228d

      I'm also the empath/black sheep of the family. My mental health issues and unwillingness to conform set me apart from the rest of my extended family. We used to get together for family gatherings and holidays when I was a kid but now our families do things separately. I know that's because of me, but at least my immediate family supports me now. The stigma attached to my disorders has worn away. I also have a wonderful daughter who has her own mental health issues and we support each other. I figure if your family can't support you unconditionally, then they're not really family anyway. I want people around me that are supportive and loving, not judgmental.

  • lilmomma782

    227d

    I'm the oldest and I feel like I always get blamed for my brothers actions and I feel like to he only use I am good for is so that my mother can take care of my brother. My brothers as lways been the one who got everything while I was expected to be the good child. Apparently My brother feels things differently than I do and apparently things that bother him aren't same as what bothers me. Who knew lol. Like, how would u know what bothers me when you're never around me. My mother also decided to leave me and my kids behind alone in this state just so she could go live closer to my brother and the rest of the family. My mother Is also manipulative and makes ppl feel sorry for her especially my brother.

  • LivingDeadGrrrl

    227d

    Yep!.. Oldest girl🙄 I'm still suffering that syndrome and only thing BAD I ever did was be a teen 14 pregnancy....that was 30 yrs ago....but STILL treated that way! So sadly I feel u!! It sucks and gets tiring

  • katzgoddessa

    227d

    I am the oldest living (older sister died shortly after birth), the unplanned one and the tried to recreate the circumstances of my sisters birth to figure out what went wrong. I was always told I wasn't as smart as my two younger sisters, as pretty, couldn't dress right, put makeup on or style my hair right. I wasn't allowed to go off to college cause I would have flunked out my first semester (I was accept to the University of Texas in Austin). I never did anything right but had to take my sister, who is 5 years younger than me, with me when I would go out with friends, I was in high school at the time. Expected to take the place of my mom when she started going on trips for an organization she belonged to. I could keep going but you get the picture. So you are not alone. Boundaries, best invention!! Have them with my sisters though I rarely talk to one, the 5 years younger and my mom's favorite. My youngest sister (8 years younger) doesn't understand them but I still have them with her. Good luck with your family!!

  • depressed_introvert

    227d

    Its like everything i say is just some dumb little kid spitting out nonsense wen in reality im 25 and a whole hell of alot smarter then both my parents......and thats not me being full of my self or anything like that trust me....but thanks for all the comments and support

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