Feeling like the black sheep of my family

Its like everything i say is just some dumb little kid spitting out nonsense wen in reality im 25 and a whole hell of alot smarter then both my parents......and thats not me being full of my self or anything like that trust me....but thanks for all the comments and support

I am the oldest living (older sister died shortly after birth), the unplanned one and the tried to recreate the circumstances of my sisters birth to figure out what went wrong. I was always told I wasn't as smart as my two younger sisters, as pretty, couldn't dress right, put makeup on or style my hair right. I wasn't allowed to go off to college cause I would have flunked out my first semester (I was accept to the University of Texas in Austin). I never did anything right but had to take my sister, who is 5 years younger than me, with me when I would go out with friends, I was in high school at the time. Expected to take the place of my mom when she started going on trips for an organization she belonged to. I could keep going but you get the picture. So you are not alone. Boundaries, best invention!! Have them with my sisters though I rarely talk to one, the 5 years younger and my mom's favorite. My youngest sister (8 years younger) doesn't understand them but I still have them with her. Good luck with your family!!

Yep!.. Oldest girl🙄 I'm still suffering that syndrome and only thing BAD I ever did was be a teen 14 pregnancy....that was 30 yrs ago....but STILL treated that way! So sadly I feel u!! It sucks and gets tiring

I'm the oldest and I feel like I always get blamed for my brothers actions and I feel like to he only use I am good for is so that my mother can take care of my brother. My brothers as lways been the one who got everything while I was expected to be the good child. Apparently My brother feels things differently than I do and apparently things that bother him aren't same as what bothers me. Who knew lol. Like, how would u know what bothers me when you're never around me. My mother also decided to leave me and my kids behind alone in this state just so she could go live closer to my brother and the rest of the family. My mother Is also manipulative and makes ppl feel sorry for her especially my brother.

I'm the second oldest of all my cousins. I WAS the super amazing genius that was gonna do amazing things. Now I'm guilt tripped on the daily for not wanting to exist and depressed af with PTSD and anxiety.

I'm the oldest and for the longest time my mom blamed me for all the times my step-dad wanted to leave her since I was 4 and lots other things she projected on to me and so on. I kinda just don't talk about myself anymore to avoid getting blamed for anything. Still sucks to know you aren't really responsible for the things that get thrown at you but you had to spend years being angry and but not understand the reason bc mental health also wasn't a thing in your family. Generational curses are real but we can only recognize them and try to stop the chain for the future unfortunately.

I was the middle child and my step dad blamed me for everything and made me do most of the work. He treated me so differently than his daughters and it killed me inside. I just wanted a fun father figure.

Thats crazy im the youngest and everyone in my family blames me for everything.....i swear they would say im the cause of covid-19 if you asked them

All. The. Time. I'm the oldest and no matter what I do, it's never good enough. Breaking generational curses is rough, but totes worth it.