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525d

How has your condition affected your sex life?

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  • Psalms

    523d

    Have never been very active for as sex concerns

  • Gorilla

    523d

    Wellbutrin definitely helps my sex life. Probably made it better

    • trademarkspoonie

      180d

      Will you explain how?!? This makes me hopeful because I used to take Wellbutrin (wasn’t having sex then), and I may start it again!

      • Neuco

        37d

        I can help with that as I'm also on Wellbutrin. Wellbutrin is a mild stimulant. While most medications (especially psychiatric ones) are, essentially, stabilisers that don't allow your mood to go too far up or down-Wellbutrin is a stimulant to just increase your dopamine uptake (also why it's occasionally used to treat mild cases of ADHD, a dopamine deficit disorder). But a stimulant doesn't really discriminate on what hormones are being increased. So it also increases your serotonin and oxytocin, plus gives you the energy depression was zapping from you.

  • idontknow

    520d

    I had problems in the beginning do 2 physical scaring and major nerve damage

    • Rambo

      104d

      Stay calm, relaxed, and meditate to control your seizures more. The more worried or scared you get, the more chances of being unhealthy. Staying relaxed and meditating took awake my deja vus naturally. Google tips on neurofeedback as well as biofeedback.

  • Dreaming84

    520d

    Depending on my pain level or nausea I have no desire but when I feel decent I have drive

  • chronicallyqueer

    520d

    I've never had any in person contact, but when it comes down to it, I *would* feel embarrassed that if they wanted to do a certain position (ex. On top of them) I wouldn't be able to do it for very long because it would start to hurt, both my fibro and my sciatica. It keeps me from exploring for potential people to be intimate with (not right now bc of the pandemic of course!)

    • Javen

      254d

      Normal people are generally nice about letting you pick positions which really helped me! There are a lot of comfy positions that I've discovered don't involve to much work lol and if someone isn't working with you they suck! Definitely know your worth cause having a chronic condition and dating can be complicated and there's no room for a person gaslighting about whatever said condition you have. Good luck though!

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  • servicedogmom

    519d

    Because of all my health problems I am just not desirable and with my progressive neuromuscular condition people just stay away. I got too much for people to even consider getting involved.

  • ChakraGoddess

    518d

    I have a high sex drive but my body takes forever to recover afterwards.

    • Dezmari

      144d

      OMG! same here

    • TheMoonGoddess420

      129d

      Same here thanks fibromyalgia! Ugh

  • Fibroteacher1107

    518d

    I just struggle wanting to have sex because I know how I’m going to feel after. Hit by a semi comes to mind.

  • LOVELAKEMI

    518d

    I've always had low sex drive. I had to look up sex headache, because sometimes I will get a migraine after sex. Sometimes I am more achy the morning after.

  • Tired247

    515d

    I've never had an interest in sex so it hasn't been affected by meds.

  • PharmTech93

    515d

    I am just not interested. I don’t want to be around people when I get home from work. I have two cats. And sometimes they drive me nuts. I usually have my fill of people at work. So when I get home, I want to be alone and quiet.

  • PharmTech93

    515d

    I don’t have a sex life.

  • Kittygirl2419

    515d

    My sex life has completely vanished, I used to get horny and enjoy everything...now that doesn't exist. Hasn't for over a year

    • gurspaceport

      181d

      It takes me so long to want to even engage. It won't seemed like a chore for a while.

  • Bluebird

    515d

    My boyfriend is very understanding. One time when we were having fun in the truck and he hit from a strange angle. It caused so much pain I couldn’t have sex or stretch or laugh for weeks without crying or vomiting. Usually my pain is bearable with pain medication but sometimes I just can’t do it. It’s good to find an understanding partner who will respect your boundaries and help you through the pain as much as possible.

  • Fibroteacher1107

    514d

    I have endometriosis since high school but as it has worsened and since sex sends me into a fibro flair sex is carefully planned. Not fun and adventurous

  • Lunalover98

    513d

    My condition hasn't really affected my sex life but my husband's depression has been causing less and less sex.

  • Nelly

    511d

    It has somewhat been hindered. My sex drive is still there but my body physically sometimes doesn't allow me to engage in sex.

  • Jeanette

    511d

    I gained a lot of weight. My husband lost interest

    • michele55

      255d

      his loss I'm sure!! Mine threw me away when I was diagnosed with nsclc stage 4 bit again...his loss!! Hang in there Jeanette.

      • Spoonie_In_Seattle

        248d

        My husband hasn’t touched me in two years. He makes all kinds of excuses, but I know it’s because of my new MS symptoms (inability to walk very far and do activities we once enjoyed like hiking) and my recent 40lb weight gain. I’m just not the person he married physically. But, inside I am the same. And I miss touch.

    • Faerie_Goddess

      95d

      definitely his loss! I had the same thing happen to me when I got prego, gained over 100 lbs, & never lost it to this day. It actually fluctuates soooo much. My ex partner definitely did NOT find me attractive anymore. Probably cheated on me several times. In the end, once I left there was a whole world full of ppl just wanting to get a taste of this body. Rolls & all! We a full course meal babe! Not just a snack. 😜 FYI we have the same name!

  • layayaya

    491d

    I’ve found that taking medication really destroyed the very low sex drive I had to work with. The thought of having sex makes me want to cry, and my boyfriend touching me makes me upset. He’s so understanding and would never want to hurt me or make me feel bad in any way, but I feel so guilty never wanting to do anything. On top of basically nonexistent libido, it hurts to have sex and I haven’t been able to figure out why. Anyone have any tips?

    • Snwuggl

      145d

      sounds like vulvodynia which can be caused by a lot of things. Mine was caused by a clenched pelvic floor muscle. It was internal and I had no idea. Definitely go to a sexual health specialist!

    • Raelynne

      93d

      Oh my gosh, everything your describing sounds just like what I'm going through. I'm wondering if Nexplanon is the culprit.

  • jb

    491d

    I just don't have the energy a lot of the time and if my sleep schedule get disrupted it takes me days if not weeks to feel better

    • TwinOfMyself

      128d

      Yes! I can relate to this so much!

  • Danimiii

    490d

    I have struggled with my libido SO much. Layayaya, your comment is exactly what I went through when I was dating my ex boyfriend a few years ago. I’m now with a woman and I think part of what makes sex enjoyable, safe, and more manageable for me now is the lack of expectation. For me personally, I feared sex because I knew I didn’t want to do certain things and I figured they would be expected. It took me being in a queer relationship to learn more about sex (and I’m not suggesting that’s the answer, lol, but for me I hard time exploring my sexuality when I was in a hetero relationship). What helps a lot for us is toys! Typically when we have sex, I use a vibrator. That helps me feel in control which makes me feel more relaxed and safe. Other things we’ve used are: feathers, candles, clitoral stimulants, etc. For me, having something else to focus on (e.g. a sensation or object) is helpful. As long as we both come we are happy! And we can do so without having oral or penetrative sex. So those are my recs. I also find sex to be more enjoyable earlier in the day because as the day goes on, especially at night, my anxiety worsens.

  • jb

    490d

    I think because of fibro and my meds it's had an effect on sex but I had a partner who had no sex drive that I think didn't help either

  • chronicallykayla

    490d

    I would say it could be better if I didn’t have chronic pain or depression and anxiety…it just seems like so much work lol my husband is very understanding

  • Anxious

    490d

    I just have no desire for it plus my mental health is awful I’ve lost all feelings for my bf but I’m to anxious to leave him bc I feel like something is gonna happen to me and nobody else will be here

    • Scali

      104d

      do you understand that you are harming both of you by not being truthful with him? Being your authentic self will strengthen your mental health and self respect, not to mention the freedom for each of you to find deeper, more meaningful relationships with others. You two may even part as friends, because of your bravery.

  • MrsSteele1

    490d

    Anxious. What makes you think "no one else will be there"? Sex isn't supposed to be the definition of love or relationship. Sex is an act of the body. Some can some can't. Those that can, can't always. Those that can sometimes even use sex as a tool in many ways (I used to be one of those people due to childhood abuse) If you feel you should leave then you need to respect him and yourself enough to do that. Lying to him and yourself is only taking you further into your rabbit hole. If you want things to work but sex is an issue then respect him enough to have an open (completely) honest, bare bones, lay it all on the table discussion. Let him know in direct and no uncertain terms how you feel and let him chose the path forward (it may be without you but you'll both know you were honest and you will move forward. Being completely open with your partner is super super HARD. It's also one of the healthiest and most rewarding thing you can do Ok off my soap box now ☺️❤️

  • Emma37

    489d

    It's hard for me to get into the moment and just feel sexy and free. I often have some pain and it makes it even harder.. In addition I focus a lot on my physical and mental health during the day so sometimes at the end of the day I just want to watch TV and relax instead of doing all that "work" to get in the mood.. I know its not fair to my partner and I try to initiate but it's happening much less than in the past.

  • Lunalover98

    479d

    My condition hasn't really change or affected my sex life but my husband is depressed and he isn't in the mood most of the time

  • Neomi

    478d

    I got postpartum depression after I gave birth. Changing my meds and becoming a mother made me felt very unstable mentally and I just feel unattractive since..

  • Bubblegumpranker

    476d

    I've used abstinence my entire life so I've never really been affected.

  • Mars

    475d

    Excruciating pain with sex due to endometriosis. It’s mostly around my period, but lately I bleed three days a week. We have definitely learned to work around it. I don’t want to over share but I’m happy to talk if anyone needs to message me.

  • Nightowl

    474d

    Never had a sex life, now I probably never will 😥. I feel like a freak.

    • trademarkspoonie

      180d

      You are not a freak. I promise! I don’t know the reasons behind what you’re going through, but not having a sex life definitely doesn’t make you a freak!

  • Lora

    473d

    Because of all of my health problems it's really hard for me just to put myself out there in the dating world, not to mention sex! When I'm not in pain or having a migraine after an anxiety attack I usually would prefer just to stay home in my PJ and watch TV..

  • Cheeseballs

    471d

    I’ve read that Ginko is really effective for sexual problems due to antidepressants

  • JesusChild777

    467d

    I started working out over 2 yrs ago I suffer from fibromyalgia arthritis in knees back and neck myofascial pain synonym and I was at 215 now I'm at 120.6 how it's been the Grace of God I started slow at one time I couldn't even sweep a floor or mop or cook. Now I'm jogging I'm lifting weights and I can sweep mop and cook this took a very LONG time to get where I am it was diligence and not giving up when I wanted to. I was in so much pain do I still get pain and tired yes I do but I also started eating better taking vitamins daily. I owe it to the Lord getting me where I am it's been hard work. Even if u start very small I started 5 minutes on a treadmill. there one time even showering was exhausting I had to lay down and sleep. It's possible it's finding what u can do and what u can't do. Don't give up even if it is small. Take care of your health and body. I never thought I'd be able to do what I can I still suffer set backs I rest recover and try again. Plus I don't use marijuana I hate the THC in it what it does to my mind I don't use pain meds because I have a addiction history I use voltaren gel or natural stuff to help. I hope and pray u all find something that helps you non addictive and will help ur body

  • Nightowl

    467d

    JesusChild777 I am currently where you used to be and I would love to hear more, what supplements you take, what your diet is, what you do to alleviate pain and fatigue.

    • trashfirehotness

      144d

      me too! I'm having a hard time even getting started. I get exertion headaches frequently, so it's difficult to make myself exercise. I feel like the clock is ticking and all it does is make my anxiety worse! I'd love some suggestions as well!

  • SAJE

    467d

    Meds have destroyed me

  • Cyndieloowho

    467d

    Between my medical conditions and my meds, I have a problem really getting into it. It's just easier not to. 😬😬

  • seaborn

    467d

    I wishi could remember what an orgasm was like 😥

  • seaborn

    467d

    Ok, maybe ots just me, but Jesus child, I feel like you're saying that if I just trust in God,and exercise and lose weight, everything will be just fine. But it doesn't work that way for everyone. I love God, I'm exercise intolerant,, and I've lost about 75 lbs. It's just not that simple.

  • JesusChild777

    467d

    No seaborn everyone is different but it's finding what works what may work for me is different than for u but these are just examples of what I've used in my journey if it can help someone I'm sorry if I offended you that was not my intent or my heart to do so but I do believe getting out of our comfort zone and trying even something small can make a difference

  • sades

    467d

    My sex drive goes all over the place. But when it's down it's gone completely like I dry up like the Sahara and lubes just dry up within a couple of minutes. It's bad when it's bad.

  • Wordartist

    466d

    My spouse died and I am not even interested in a relationship.

  • Ang

    466d

    I have hypersexuality due to trauma, so this makes my sex drive incredibly high. I often don’t feel like having actual sex and I never have had sex. Chronic pain and intrusive thoughts make it hard for me to take any action though, so I would have to say my disabilities make it much harder.

  • Zeb82005

    466d

    I enjoy sex, but I’ve never been able to achieve orgasm by myself or with a partner.

  • Lunareclipse

    466d

    Honestly my meds make my sex drive way higher then before. I feel bad for my partner but I can never seem to finish.

  • bill

    466d

    I come less often than Santa clause these days

  • neoncrusader

    465d

    I get very distracted during sex due to ADHD, but if I take my current meds for it, it fucks with my sex drive and causes ed. Im switching over to a different medicine that won't hurt my sex drive as much soon though, so maybe I won't get be all over the place during.

  • JoAnn

    455d

    Prozac killed it completely. Hoping Wellbutrin brings it back!

  • fallonsly

    452d

    If anything I'm more ready to be active.

  • wintersky

    411d

    Guess it's a censored? My whole opening up thing failed to post and won't let me retry.

  • wintersky

    411d

    Very discouraging, I wish you all life and comfort. App creators should at least notify why I just went through that for nothing

  • spoonie93

    411d

    My sex drive has become very low. My hormones are all over the place and cause a lack of drive and my endometriosis causes pain. My fiance used to be understanding. He was my first boyfriend and the only person I was ever intimate with. We were together for almost 10 years and we were engaged for almost 3 years. He left me in September this year. He said I made him feel unloved and undeserving of love because of the lack of intimacy. Now I have no desire and I feel like no one will ever want to deal with me in the future.

    • Scali

      104d

      True intimacy has Very little to do with sex. I can say this because, after 6 failed marriages, and more sexual partners than I ever want to try to count, I realized that I Never truly knew Any of their dreams, ideals, thoughts, personal feelings about anything that matters, and the list continues, ad nauseam. I want to know those things, LONG before anything in the bedroom, now. That's intimacy, and that (I hope and pray) is the Real love adventure. js.

  • Aerith_anubis

    411d

    My sex drive is really high. However, I have not feel like I want penetration due to trauma and all the surgeries I had in my pelvic area

  • RosesForMyDear

    410d

    I have severe anxiety whenever sex is brought up. Like I start panicking and freaking out. Even last night we had to stop so I could cry a minute and calm down before continuing. It's awful. Even just like talking about it now makes me feel anxious. But I need to get that feeling out because it's stressing me out.

  • PurpleToaster

    410d

    I identify as asexual. I don’t feel that my meds have had any effect on my libido at all

  • thistle

    410d

    My chronic pain hasn't affected it much, but my bipolar and PTSD have impacted it a lot. Hypersexual or completely repulsed, it's been hard for me to cope with it. I abstain currently as to not cause more problems for myself

  • niicoleee

    409d

    only downside with celiac disease is i cant kiss someone unless they’ve brushed their teeth/used mouthwash!!!!

  • TheDragon

    408d

    Inverse psoriasis makes things difficult...

  • croix

    408d

    i recently had knee surgery so at the moment my sex life is nonexistent, but otherwise it’s generally great! sertraline robbed me of my sex drive for a while but i’ve learned to work around it.

  • e.j

    408d

    I just have no interest. It seems fun and cool, and then I get close to doing it, and just get so fucking uncomfortable.

  • Ninothesloth

    408d

    I don’t think my condition affect my sex life. I’m demisexual so I’m pretty much asexual unless I develop a deep emotional connection. I never had the desire to have sex but it doesn’t really bother me, I value emotional connections over sex. I am open to being in a relationship but only with a partner who understands my sexuality and is ok with that.

  • quentinsorentino

    408d

    Ive gained a lot of weight from my birth control and my regular meds that i feel scared to have sex because i'm unhappy with my body

  • ailand

    408d

    Idk I think I have trauma relating to sex and it really just... Fundamentally impacts everything about it for me. I don't want to go too into depth because I don't want to upset/trigger people, but just about everything about how I have sex is influenced by these experiences. Other than that, though, I think it would be hard for me to get close enough to someone to feel comfortable having sex with them because autism and social anxiety (I've never been physically intimate with anyone before, not even stuff like romantic cuddling or kissing), though sometimes I like the idea of it. Because I grew up on the Internet and how normalized sex work and casual sex are, it's hard for me to tell between normal and safe sex practices are and what's unhealthy and would hurt me. I like causal sex in theory and it's relatively easy to find strangers that are interested through apps and stuff, but I don't want to get fucked up from it, you know? Sex isn't a huge concern of mine, though, and I'd rather be mentally healthy than not a virgin.

  • Eliohwes

    408d

    It’s changed a lot pretty recently. I don’t really ever feel sexually attraction to other people at all, so there’s no desire to have sex. However my experiences with wanting to masturbate are different. It used to be super common, but then I was on antidepressants, and that mixed with my pain made it pretty undesirable. But now I’m taking testosterone as I go through a gender transition and that changed that so quick, and it’s become pretty regular.

  • kriter

    408d

    Wellbutrin REALLY drives up my libido. I'm basically always ready to go 😂

  • dogdad13

    408d

    I've seen a couple people write about how Wellbutrin increases their sex drive and I also take it, so now a lot of things make sense lol 😅

  • Crow

    407d

    I personally love and hate the libido destruction 😭 good always and bad when i want it to go away

  • Bijoux

    407d

    Hypothyroidism is kinda ruining my desire 😓 I always had a very high sex drive previously

  • StrawberryBlonde

    405d

    Never was interested

  • Seven

    404d

    i have vaginismus. some days are good but most times I can't have sex

  • MarinaV

    404d

    I’m not interested in sex. I had sex for the first time years ago and it was the most painful and excruciating experience I ever had. I could barely last a couple seconds. wanted to scream from the pain. I haven’t had sex then and I don’t ever want to again. the whole thing terrifies me.

  • ThatRAchic

    404d

    I used to have a really high sex drive, then my meds just diminished it. Then my husband and I got so fat we couldn’t have sex if we wanted to. Now I’ve lost over 120lbs and am starting to think about sex, not sure about having it because of dryness due to menopause, but he’s still fat & can’t perform. ☹️

  • Melmusic

    395d

    I can’t have unprotected sex because I’m afraid of passing it to someone so I only use condoms for everything n I do have to use a vibrator if I didn’t have a vibrator it would hurt hopefully I can get my meds and be able to have unprotected sex and not pass it to my partner

  • mosquito

    395d

    my sex life is still young so i don’t know if this is caused by medications, disorders, or if this is just how i am but it’s so difficult to get myself in the mood. sometimes to idea of sex makes me feel annoyed with my partner which makes my heart ache because i love him to the ends of the earth.

  • bojanglesbiscuit

    393d

    I’ve gained a lot of weight from my condition so that kinda puts me off of it

  • lunae

    391d

    I uses to have a decent sex life with my partner but now that's going down the drain because of my conditions 😥

  • Sexylady

    386d

    Im interested but my physical pain and CFS often get in the way!!!

  • Infinity

    383d

    Due to BPD/HPD and PTSD, I’m hypersexual.

  • sugarcookiegirl

    383d

    my iud insertion changed my sex drive. barely there. the experience was traumatizing and extremely painful. bled for a month. I also have been extremely low self esteem, I don’t masturbate anymore. it’s really hard to even want to look at my body, especially my gentials. sometimes I can feel attractive, but it’s not as often anymore. my boyfriend tries his best but I get anxious with engagement. I think it’s a control thing. I can’t fantasize about my boyfriend, I have really deep intimacy issues that i’m struggling with.

  • Book

    365d

    I've been trying to be intimate with my partner and I'm new to this area of life. It hurts too much every time and we've stopped trying cause of it..

  • Nikki_ochoa2003

    360d

    I’m a virgin

  • Emilyzx

    359d

    Drive is there, but it grosses me out and makes me feel guilty sometimes

  • PD_03301

    354d

    My condition is Peyronie's Disease, which is a severe and painful curvature of the erect penis due to a formation of plaque near the erectile tissue. It has made sex pretty much impossible, so I haven't had any sex in a couple of years. There aren't many treatment options for this disease. I am currently undergoing treatment that involves a series of injections that are supposed to loosen up the plaque, but so far it isn't working. I'm struggling with feeling emasculated, but I'm coping. Luckily I have a very understanding and supportive partner.

  • wheezynwavy

    354d

    I have a high libido, but I also have vaginismus (painful, involuntary muscle spasms with penetration) so that really puts a damper on things. My pelvic floor muscles are also hypertonic (overly tight all the time) so I experience pain with arousal and general anxiety around any type of sex, not just PIV (penis in vagina). I'm getting better slowly, but it can be very frustrating at times. I'm here to talk if anyone who's going through similar things wants a friend.

  • Mariale1297

    353d

    In my case, I love my husband and Inuse to love having sex, now a days it's becoming harder, I don't have the same sex drive, I just turned 40 last year and my desire is very low, my period is all over the place very heavy flow and longer than usual so it makes it hard. 😥

  • VeryBerryBabe

    353d

    Period is so all over the place that I was bleeding for a month but that was an extreme situation. It usually lasts about 2 weeks (which is still way longer than I'd like) but hoping my new bc will help. I don't like period sex bc it's messy so this limits the chances I have to have intercourse. And my libido has plummeted and I experience sex repulsion due to trauma so that lowers the chances even more. I just want to have a healthy and consistent sexual relationship with my partner 😥

  • Female65

    350d

    I am too old for sex.

    • TalkMuch

      250d

      never too old for sex! Sex knows no age!

  • Na

    350d

    I feel the same way. I like my quiet time

  • em_thriving

    348d

    The UTIs have made me unable to have sex in the way I want to.

  • Cwabs

    348d

    I have never had sex but with all of the conditions that I have with my reproductive system make even a pelvic exam extremely painful so it makes me scared that I, well, can’t.

  • WRaven

    262d

    Not really due to my condition.. Ace person here XD

  • foreveritchy

    261d

    It's almost physically impossible most of the time. I might get an ok couple days from my pain where I can but then it just makes it worse. I have herniated discs in my neck not sure which and lower back l4, l5, and s1. I have major nerve issues even down there, so it makes it hard to have a sex life. I am thankful my husband is very understanding. Something has to give though. Between the discs and the "genital eczema" what the drs diagnosed with punch biopsy, he is lucky maybe 2 xs a month. And that's pushing it!😞

  • Soskae

    255d

    My conditions have terrified me when it comes to sex especially the PTSD, HS, my weight and femoral surgeries but as cliche as it sounds I found the right person. Because of my body there are certain positions we can’t do but that’s really the only thing that I think good me back because of my disabilities. With that though I still have a killer sex life so I’ve been very fortunate to find someone to be patient with me and my body.

  • Ren.exe

    255d

    I accidentally clicked the wrong one, but I guess it's true it isn't the same. But that doesn't feel like a bad thing. Sex doesn't have to look a certain way, you can engage in a lot of ways and I've found my sex life is really fulfilling for me, even though it has changed. Well... Recently it's been less fulfilling due to mental health stuff I guess. But I think that will pass soon.

  • carrielovelylady

    255d

    Its sometimes ok and sometimes not something I feel like I'm even missing.

  • Crystal_Rose

    254d

    I dont understand what condition its referring to?? I have a couple? I mean im constantly ready for action if that's what it means

  • Lethean

    254d

    I was with someone going 100mph and then I got sick and (brakes screeching) I’ve been at 0 mph for nearly 3 years. Life is certainly different and “blue”. 😩

  • MsDaisyMae

    254d

    After my surgery, recent flashbacks and pelvic dysfunctions. I don't want to do anything with sex. I feel discouraged and useless ( even though that is distorted thinking)

  • MusicaMosby

    254d

    Mine fluctuates greatly and sometimes my partner can't keep up

  • HiddenGem

    254d

    I use to have a higher sex drive but I think it’s because of all the trauma I had. Now I don’t really wanna have sex anymore but I do because I love my boyfriend and I don’t know how to explain my lack of drive. 😕

  • PicklesTheCat

    254d

    I went from having a high sex drive to not even being able to kiss my partner without having a seizure

  • Cvprisun

    254d

    sex for me is very painful. i think i have vaginismus but am scared to talk to a doctor about it.

    • TalkMuch

      250d

      sorry to hear that. Would foreplay help you relax and loosen up?

  • MusicalGamer

    251d

    So scared to continue. And I want it way to often

  • Arbor555

    251d

    My opinion on things change day to day and I can’t tell if I want to break up with my partner bc they’re not good enough for me or if I want to stay with them forever. I want to have sex but I’m still traumatized from my first attempt and unsure if I should hold onto my partner for sex, and also so I’m not alone.

  • cjness

    251d

    I was Always asexual Anyway.

  • Elladolores

    251d

    I’m not interested men these days don’t know what they doing. The department is closed. Until further notice.

  • captain_pike

    251d

    As a male, it's now trauma inhibited. I have desire but trauma from loss and from lies and manipulation by others.

  • JessicaTrask

    250d

    I'm realizing that I need to have a deep conversation with multiple women before I have sex with them.

  • Jani_M

    250d

    Sex drive is non existent Right after surgery it was so so But then anxiety and some depression kicked in and those meds made the little that I had disappear It has out a Strain on my relationship because I like don’t even want to be touched Love my partner but I don’t want anything to do with sex

  • shadowmyth

    250d

    My sexuality was one of my favorite parts of myself and now I have to be celibate to avoid ruining anyones life the way mine is ruined

  • Lethe

    250d

    I've never had any real interest, or a drive for such a thing, but that's coming from somebody who's Asexual. I suppose I can count it as a win in that department, since I don't feel like I'm missing out, even when others on my medications mention related side effects.

  • Raven777

    250d

    I don't have a set life. No boyfriend. No husband. No social life....

  • Emmagrace

    250d

    I don't have one

  • hsupermann

    250d

    It has made me fairly hypersexual... especially and extremely during manic episodes, I used to not really care about sex at all until it became a trauma response and symptom of developing mental health issues, now I can live with out it but I want it alot, especially rn during a big manic episode I'm horny pretty much 24/7 and I hate it lol

  • TalkMuch

    250d

    I wish I have very low libido. This way, my mind is focused on productive things and not sex all the time

  • Mad.Hatter

    250d

    I'm often not interested. And even when I am I am usually in pain and can't perform. Or I start and can't really finish.

  • Ally95

    250d

    I was never really a fan of sex to begin with. I can go months to years without it. And no, I'm not Ace, I can feel sexual desire for people, it's just I don't act on it. IDK maybe I'm just weird.

    • Las7983

      249d

      I’m the same way. I always felt I could take it or leave it…more often than not though I’m gonna leave it

  • Mikasa

    249d

    I used to have a very I libido, but when I got on birth control, antidepressants, and epilepsy meds. I just don't seem to have any desire anymore unless I'm on my period. Which really sucks bc I want my partner to be happy, and I won't deny them. But they think I don't want them. When that's not true. I just hope to get off some of my meds soon

  • ImaKandiMoose

    249d

    I got Crohns during puberty. I have many issues now with it. Mental and physical. I tried a psychiatrist but that was a joke. My husband's drive is a 10 and I am 1.5 it causes a lot of issues and heartache.

  • Maryslim

    248d

    My husband was always understanding, it just doesn't come into my mind. We never talked about it.

  • Kalena

    248d

    I still enjoy sex, I am sore all over after , fybromonster But I don’t even want to try to date , who would want to deal with my issues. And I don’t want to have to explain all my stuff No one believes my pain anyway

  • Alpine

    248d

    The idea that I could possibly get pregnant even though I'm on birth control & use condoms is constantly invading my mind. Worry, anxiety, checking for pregnancy symptoms (where the ocd comes in), overthinking.

  • Mop

    228d

    Aroace superiority babyyy

  • Kitty83

    228d

    For me, ADHD makes most things and activities kind of "out of sight, out of mind." Including sex. I just don't think about it until my husband reminds me in some way that it is a part of our marriage that helps him feel connected. So I rarely initiate sex myself, which makes me feel guilty.

  • Lucas.exe

    228d

    I think I'm asexual now. I have 0 interest in doing anything with anyone relationship or sex wise. I dont let anyone or anything touch me. I only have intrest in 2D men and nothing else. I'm the world's most undateable person ever.

  • Cheymarie

    227d

    I have really bad anxiety before.. I have IBS and I can’t seem to get myself relaxed. The whole time I’m thinking I’m going to either shit myself or it’s going to hurt really bad because it has before. I try and relax but I find it really hard.

  • NervousDepresso

    227d

    I wouldn't know. I've been single and lonely for over 2 years now. The only way I'm able try and meet women is online, and all of them either won't give me the time of day, or are insulting, judgmental, and down right cruel.

  • LunarRose

    227d

    I was manipulated into having sex for a while. I don't want to have sex again until after I get married because of the value I now have on sex. But at the same time, I have still gotten into intense situations that doesn't go very far because I end up having panic attacks

  • maic

    226d

    I'm not interested when I'm super anxious or depressed but generally I'm stable recently and have sex with my husband once every couple of weeks... Normal for us

  • KabdiSystem

    226d

    I still enjoy sex, but it is always painful, sometimes excruciatingly so. Luckily I have an amazing partner who has helped to learn and understand my needs so my pain is very much more bareable. Although I still want to participate in it and like it, I know it will never be the same for me as it is for non ill people.

  • Weiss

    226d

    My body limits me and my mind can go from into it to not very quickly. Frustrating, disappointing, embarrassing, and difficult.

  • sprite

    226d

    my sex drive fluctuates. when i'm hypomanic it's all i think about half the time, but when i'm depressed i'm pretty much fine either way.

    • sprite

      226d

      that said, i have incredibly low self-esteem and that makes it hard. when i'm hypomanic i don't get as anxious about it, but otherwise it's really difficult for me to show someone my body.

  • AMWes

    226d

    My joint pain makes sex very limited in what i can do but my partner is very understanding when I say it's a bad pain day

  • LexaPeach91

    226d

    My meds have MOSTLY robbed me of my sexual desire, but it comes and goes.

  • AnimalBoy

    226d

    I've never had the highly active and kinky sex life I wanted, previously because of partner incompatibility as well, because I just can't hold the right positions or di the right activities with the same endurance, frequency, and strength as I wish I could. Even if I can my partner is also disabled with his own limitations as well.

    • AnimalBoy

      225d

      To be clear, it's not that it's bad though. I just feel limited in ways I wish I was, my partner is incredibly understanding and helpful and has even helped open up options i wouldnt have had because of gender dysphoria and my current sex life is way better than it's been despite my disability being worse. I just have never had an option to do some of the things i wanted/want to do, although even that might be easier if I had the money to do other things I want to try.

      • History.and.cats

        225d

        a lot of the more kinky things are sadly monetarily restricting, but maybe there is some ways to adapt some of the activities to physical and financial abilities?

  • TimeLordForrest

    226d

    I have more sexual desires than beforw

  • CharlieB3an

    226d

    I sadly don't have a sex life, I'm in 11th grade...

  • History.and.cats

    225d

    Grief killed my drive for almost a year, and while I still miss my partner that drive has come back.

  • AriJuda

    225d

    uh I'm a sex addict and have bpd so um. not currently stable enough for that.

  • WhistleStopper

    216d

    I have no drive. It has been this way for at least five years. I don't even want to be touch sexually in any way. I am supper dry and tried moisturizer and that help some but no drive. Tried estrogen cream, and that helps but my boobs swell so much you can't touch for pain. Help, because my husband wants some sex back. Had a hysterectomy 18 months ago due to andomytosis and post ablation syndrome. Still have overies.

  • Satans_lil_devil

    181d

    My partner and I haven't had sex in 4 months. It's making me think he doesn't find me attractive anymore considering we used to all the time.

  • CozyGoth

    180d

    I would love to say I have a very active sex life but unfortunately that’s not the case. I’ve been lucky enough that my meds don’t really affect my very high libido but orgasms are few and far between most of the time. I also struggle mostly due to physical pain. I have Endometriosis and some days it’s fine but others having sex feels like someone is punching a bruise over and over again and it hurts. If it’s not the endo, it’s everything else. My joints don’t stay in place, they lock up, I can’t put weight on my wrists all the time, and never mind about being on top!! I wish I could, but I can never do it for very long. I feel really guilty about it too, it means my boyfriend is putting in ALL the physical work!! I try to sometimes but if I don’t stop myself he stops me cuz he can tell it hurts. I have a wonderful sex life because I have a really caring and considerate partner who does everything he can not only to please me but to keep my safe and comfortable. I wish it was easier and I wish it didn’t hurt so bad or that I could walk easier afterwards but it’s something that is very very hard on my body. Semi related tangent: My pain has been a big reason we’ve started to look into BDSM. Playing mind games or taking extra time in foreplay can really make sex fun and in ways a lot less physical! It’s given us a realm to be intimate with each other but not always physical. We haven’t tried it yet due to several circumstances but we’ve been looking into shibari and rigging! The idea is if my body is all tied up, it can’t dislocate or hyperextend!! No need to put so much energy into holding myself together and I’ll just let the external supports do it! Sorry if this part got TMI but I hope it inspires someone else or something g 😅😂

  • Sydie_Bear

    180d

    I’m still going strong but I’m limited in positions for sure, my hips aren’t too good!! Sometimes we have to take breaks but it doesn’t keep anything from being fun

  • SidiSpire

    180d

    Does trauma count? I'm asexual but a lot of it is due to trauma around sex. I typically take care of those urges ~myself~ and feel sick at the thought of doing it with others. Unsure if that means it's due to medical conditions or just me being ace or both

  • ItsJustARide

    180d

    As a woman I have trauma around sex. I have a normal drive but as soon as I get aroused I get all these intrusive thoughts about dusgusting and degrading things I've heard men say about women... and I immediately feel worthless and disgusted with my body and completly turned off. I also have a huge fear of getting pregnant before marriage. These days I'm not interested in men unless they're willing to wait for marriage to have sex. Otherwise I dont trust them and have huge amounts of anxiety about sex without a ring on my finger.

  • BellzH

    180d

    It honestly depends on the day, mood, and if I'm hurting or real nauseous. Usually I have no issues but one med does effect one thing 😬

  • Nagem01

    180d

    In my 7 year relationship I never had the desire but now I'm on less meds and have a non abusive partner lol

  • LunaLover

    180d

    Well, considering that I'm single as a freaking Pringle, it's not gonna be happening any time soon🤣🤣

  • RedCollar15

    180d

    My partner is ace and we are long distance, so there wasn't much to start with. My chronic pain has made it more difficult to initiate in the times we have been together to the extent we just exist in the same place at the same time.

  • SomethingOrOther

    180d

    I've had an odd order to things. Due to blackouts of memories, seeming neuro-divergent awareness, more recent incident, and a very diligent parent; I knew something was wrong. But I just continued to try and be as normal as I could be. As soon as I realized I was only doing stuff because I felt I should be, because that's what people did..right? I realized my drive for sex itself really wasn't there in a way that seemed the same as my partner. And the way they reacted(poorly) to less sexual stuff with irritation confused me. I kept having trauma responses. And I didn't even know. Its gotten worse for slightly different reasons but which have increased the complexity of the trauma(s). And It's so frustrating. I have been to terrified to even try because I have no idea how my body will react. And it has effected my dating and intimate life 100%.

  • Satin

    180d

    Honestly I'm asexual so I don't really do that stuff generally, but I do know that my ocd makes it hard for me to stomach touching others 😅

  • Catlady121427

    179d

    For me it is mentapase that has taken my desire

  • BulletproofRose

    179d

    I'm not sure I would attribute it to meds, but my sex drive changed in the last several years. You could describe it as a change from "active" to "reactive" I guess. I've really been struggling with it because I've been with the same partner and he thought I was no longer attracted to him 😔 I've felt like I was broken and lost my sex drive altogether, but I've been learning and trying to educate myself about what's "normal". I think it's actually had a positive impact on my anxiety even.

  • CaptainHolmes

    155d

    I don't know if my sex drive is low due to asexuality, trauma, medications, health conditions, or a combination of the above. I only want it during one week of the month. It takes a lot to get in the mood which feels like more trouble than it's worth sometimes. It's easier to do things for his pleasure than for my own.

    • CaptainHolmes

      155d

      I also require a ton of lube.

  • ChristineD

    155d

    So, yes my condition keeps from getting sexual at the most of times. I just went a 4 or 5 months of no sexuality. Then in the last few weeks, I have been desiring it a lot. Maybe too much? Maybe, my body is making up for lost time? Idk.

  • sabbymer

    155d

    Mine doesn't affect my drive or anything but my muscles will act up or ill get stuck in my head. It's hard for me to relax.

  • Nicoratboy

    155d

    I’m very ace. My sex drive depends on the day

  • soccerbaby9015

    154d

    This is a tough one. I have to be really mentally and emotionally ready to engage in anything sexual. Sometimes my mind will want to but my body doesn't follow suit, or vise versa. I dont know why I'm like this; I haven't had any trauma in that way. It just needs to feel right. So I guess drive just depends on if my emotional needs are being met.

    • royalty

      154d

      I understand because I'm the exact same way

  • Patt

    154d

    Because of my trauma, I can’t feel anything like that or even want to

  • Xandini

    154d

    I don't really know for sure because my wife refuses sex because she is scared of it.

    • Xandini

      154d

      Going on 6 years now with 0 sexual contact. Sometimes I feel like I am going insane but there is no option for me.

  • ChickenGirl1204

    154d

    Welp, I'll just stand over here as the virgin who still hasn't had her first kiss yet. 😔

    • CaptainHolmes

      154d

      nothing wrong with that!

  • Placebo1228

    154d

    We're not as active as we want, but my condition makes it difficult to feel confident and comfortable

  • royalty

    154d

    We used to be really active until my health declined, now I hardly ever want to. And when I do, usually my pain gets in the way

  • GingerSnapple

    154d

    For me, sex is complicated. There are times where I won't want touch for months because of flashbacks.. and others where I want it none stop, but no matter what I still have the physical constraints of my inflammatory disease which I feel like is causing a rift between me and my partner, I can't satisfy him in the way he wants and I might never be able to. We still have a lot of fun, but there's always going to be that block.

  • Angelbaby4275

    154d

    I have mine the hubby has none been this way 8 years :(!

  • Denotchka

    154d

    I almost feel like my husband is forcing even minimal sexual activity and I don’t feel comfortable right now because I’m so I’ll that I’m wondering what I truly need to do. I know men need sexual stimulation, but our relationship is so mess up that I’m unsure what to do about it. I need to get stem cell treatment soon but we’re also having economic issues as well. This is a a nightmare.

    • animelover

      147d

      if he doesn't love you unless you give him sex then leave him it sounds like that mofo be using you for your body- Richard

  • AtlasTheMoth

    148d

    I'm asexual, so there wasn't any concern there to begin with

  • zombettie

    148d

    I'm asexual. I prefer not to have sex.

  • Wheezerr

    148d

    I haven’t been active bc It’s harder to become sexual even by touch. I used to consider myself asexual but it’s more like its hard for me to become sexual and be interested in it bc i find emotional fulfillment in other things so i generally don’t need that other spark in my life. But working on eliminating the fears i have around sex bc i was traumatized by my exfriends who made it sound like such a huge physical task and gross with their descriptions of sex… too little detail there but its a very long story i need to work on with a CBT sex therapist.

  • Mafuyu

    148d

    Because of my constant constipation, penetrative sex is off limits due to the pain it causes me. I still have an active “sex” life, just without penetration! I’ve found that I honestly don’t need it. ^^ Plus I’m able to know that I’m safe that way! No babies if the department’s closed. XD

  • ina

    148d

    i've never had an orgasm because of depression and antidepressants. it's so frustrating

  • jackdaw

    147d

    I don't have a partner but I have high libido but I don't like taking care of it most of the time because I don't get much satisfaction from it, I have little desire but I'm often aroused if that makes any sense?

    • busy_bee

      147d

      huh that's a tricky predicament. Have you felt differently with a partner?

    • xxlostgirl

      147d

      I know exactly what you mean! I’m experiencing a similar situation.

  • xxlostgirl

    147d

    Personally my sex drive is still strong. I have no issues with it. Tbh though I think I’m extremely hyper sexual though.

  • Red914

    147d

    Honestly, over the past 18 years, it's been all of those options. Having a hysterectomy and learning some pelvic floor relaxing techniques has helped soo much. There are days when the fibromyalgia interferes with it, but mostly it's great now. My husband and I communicate our needs and limitations honestly and openly. And look for creative ways to stay intimate.

  • animelover

    147d

    No one fucking likes me bc I'm an age regressor ( not cognitive distortions speaking literally no one will say yes if I ask them out trust me I've tried) they don't wanna have to take care of me when little which is understandable twt I just wish ppl weren't douches

    • t4t

      136d

      That’s difficult. I’m sorry.

  • Skittlemasterrawr

    147d

    I'm having an issue where I just can't get satisfied no matter what I do it's like watching porn and masturbating isn't doing it for me I have aggressive sex but I'm craving more I want him to ejaculate in me so bad but when he does do that I cry. I cry after sex all the time and I get so horny it hurts and I can't stop it no matter what I do and my body twitches so bad causing so much pain but the urge is so uncomfortable and constant I need a break.

  • Skittlemasterrawr

    147d

    Getting off to porn and using my toys isn't doing anything for me I can't get into my Dr until next week my nipples are hard and I'm begging for it and I don't know what to do to stop the urges.

  • EliotWaugh

    145d

    I’ve been celibate for a few years and not really interested in finding anyone right now… and I think any sexual difficulties I had with previous partners was mostly because I just wasn’t attracted to them lol. I’ve since learned I’m demisexual. I started taking Paroxetine after my last relationship ended and I have noticed a significant decrease in how often I’m able to reach orgasm when I want to. It’s a little frustrating but there are other things to spend my time on I guess.

  • srea

    145d

    Never been able to fully enjoy sex due to vulvodynia & intense fear response (freeze, fight, fawn). After a 3-year failed marriage, I started physical therapy but had to stop because the emotional pathways wrapped up in it were so bad. I felt like my worth was tied to my ability to have sex. Working on the emotional side now. Aspec dating an aspec too 🫠😅 it’s perfect lol 🥲

    • t4t

      136d

      Hey I’m glad you found someone with similar needs to you. I’m sorry that it took that journey to get there though.

  • TheGreasyStrangler

    145d

    My partner and I both have very high libido, but I often find myself falling into episodes because of how i associate sex with abuse scenarios. I've been working on adding romance instead of objectifying myself in my head, which seems to be the problem, it seems to have gotten better but I'm not entirely sure yet.

  • keekso234

    145d

    That's none of anyone's buissness

  • IAmHer2

    145d

    My sex life sucks. It's not because of me directly, my libido hasn't changed much. However, I believe it's mostly due to my physical appearance and the medicine smell that my body omits, my partner no longer finds me appealing!!

  • Starlightie

    145d

    For the most part I have a very active and healthy sex life in the physical sense... In the mental sense though it's terrible and filled with a lot of internalized feelings of guilt. I became active at a very young age bc of CSA and the hypersexuality it caused. On the outside I show an abnormally high drive, but most of the time I don't actually want to. I just feel like I have to in order to make sure my partner still loves me and wants me. I've been thinking about asking my partner to help me abstain by saying no and offering other forms of affection that aren't sexual. I need to train myself to see sex differently than I do now... Otherwise I'll keep putting the pleasure of my body over the suffering of my mind.

  • Xavier_c

    145d

    My depression has made me too tired for it most of the time, but at the same time my bpd and trauma makes me hypersexual and it makes me engage in dangerous sex practices online. I hate my sexual feelings because of this

  • Odette

    145d

    I literally am never in the mood and I hate that for my husband😩

  • Bacon_

    145d

    Still a virgin (‘:

  • Natron01

    144d

    I have a high libido but I have a problem completing due to my anxiety medication

  • TheKandiCollective

    144d

    The type of trauma I have along with my special interest in kink, and the adhd, makes me pretty hypersexual, and my boyfriend is too, so- yk- I'm good-

    • t4t

      136d

      (Possible TMI TW, feel free to ignore, I just find this comment helpful and interesting) Actually this makes me wonder if what drives my partner’s interest in sex despite a lower than average libido is also a hyperfixation on kink? In a strange way it’s not that different from theater. This definitely makes me want to ask her about it. That’s interesting.

  • Sassy05

    144d

    I need to be emotionally connected. Physically isn’t a problem I just have to get out of my mindset and be reassured all the time to give myself to my boyfriend

  • Irelan

    144d

    I'm single, a Pringle, and unable to reproduce😶😜

  • hiwaterlemon

    144d

    I am quite unsure. Libidio is fine. At first sex was painful, now it's amazing. Because of the changes my body has been going through, my ligaments can get locked up. My muscles will pull back. Certain positions are painful, my hip sockets are deformed, locked up or out of place. My partner is understanding, so we stick to what's works. Today he told me "I need to stegthen my legs" I worked out not too long ago..... So maybe my legs just can't strengthen. The muscles just won't relax at times. Everything else is normal regarding intimacy.

  • Lin92

    144d

    I thought it was my mental health, and in a way it was. It was the relationship I was in. The relationship I have now, I can't contain myself with him...

  • AlexLee

    144d

    Used to have a high libido and thought that maybe my birth control had lowered it lately, stopped taking it 3 months ago and its still non-existent. Maybe my depression meds?

    • Louva_bug

      143d

      I’m on Prozac and it KILLED my libido. It’s better now but for a while I was basically asexual

      • PEPhoenix

        143d

        feel this..lol. But other psych meds.

  • Louva_bug

    143d

    My meds reaaaallly messed up my libido but luckily with my partner a lot of it has come back. My anxiety and people pleasing has also caused problems, it led me to do things I wasn’t actually comfortable with because I valued the other person’s pleasure and comfort over my own. Being true to my needs and practicing setting boundaries has helped me have a much more healthy and enjoyable sec life

  • PEPhoenix

    143d

    Medication almost entirely ruined my sexual health until I researched and found something else. Otherwise my pain affects it but doesn't prevent it. Adaptability is helpful.

  • niceshyguy

    143d

    I am on wellbutrin and it doesn't take the desire away like alot of other meds I've been on, in fact it probably adds to it. My only issue is I still waiting for the right person that will put up with me 😊😊 so I don't have that experience yet

  • Alux

    143d

    i’m asexual and have a low sex drive and zero interest in sex. i did find that some antidepressants increased my sex drive, but still no attraction lol

  • Teardrops

    137d

    I have been sexually abused and I have PTSD from it and have no desire for intimacy or relationship or even to date.

  • des00000

    136d

    Having bipolar I know that sex could lead me to a manic place. But since being in a happy relationship I haven't had issues.

  • catdad22

    136d

    Between being demisexual, and frequently being exhausted and/or in pain, I have to tell my partner no a lot, which makes them sad.

  • t4t

    136d

    Despite my mental health and trauma likely contributing to a very late bloom sexual attraction and activity wise, I’m actually at a point where I believe I have a much higher drive than my peers- including one’s I believe to be mentally and physically healthy. I think where my mental health is currently, quick and easy pleasures seem much more appealing and my desire to control my impulses is lower than it has been in the past.

  • Lin92

    129d

    I used to think it was me and my condition, but it was just my partners. My current is amazing and I couldn't be/never thought I could ever be more attracted to a person. I'm almost insatiable. I could stare at him for hours as if he were an ocean view....

  • carterspade

    128d

    Lamictal has pretty much hyped my sexual drive up. I'm happy about that, at least I'm not depressed.

  • Rowtag

    128d

    It's more... unpredictable? Usually it's fairly high and will be pretty hyper for days on end and then I'll go through a timeframe right after where I'm entirely disinterested. Then back again. It's rarely casual at any rate, usually one extreme (or close to one extreme) or the other.

  • TwinOfMyself

    128d

    I used to have a very high sex drive and a very healthy sex life. Then I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia. It's hard to even stay awake most days. I also suffer from PTSD from an event 3 years ago that I'm finally going through a trial for in October. I'll be better once it's over with but I want to be more intimate with my partner. I just don't know how.

  • prettypixie

    122d

    Ive been hypersexual for the majority of my life. So id say im struggling with having control rather than the lack of it

  • Dwarfpandabear

    122d

    Honestly with all of my trauma, I use sex as a way of feeling validated. I'm not quite sure if I even know what really being horny is because I've used it as a crutch to feel wanted and loved for so long that I can't see it as anything else. I'm always annoying my fiance to have sex because it's one of the only ways I feel like I can get the love and intimacy that I crave. I know that it's probably bad but I'm not sure how to go back from it.😔

  • G123

    121d

    I get very sweaty during sex due to hyperhydrosis. Anyone have tips?

    • MorganVL

      90d

      I have the same issue! my boyfriend just has a fan on high speed pointed directly at us but mostly at me the whole time to keep me feeling cold

  • Elliott_Velvett

    121d

    I'm Asexual and only form theoretical sexual attraction. But my maladaptive daydream sex life is very good thanks for asking.

  • Ms.Ruckman32

    121d

    I'm Asexual and I'm not into either a man or woman but my body has needs that I don't like or want I'm also a bit sex repulsed. I'm also dealing with trauma but I'm making it!

  • Docdrew

    119d

    👍

  • living411

    116d

    Sometimes I have to stop or I decline altogether due to my mental state, but I'm thankful I have a partner who is so understanding and doesn't even try it when he is aware of my state.

  • AJ_Snow

    116d

    Im asexual but one of our conditions affects it because we're a DID system, some headmates are sexual while many of us are not, we're also autistic so I think that shows a little bit that it's difficult to want to or understand why someone would even engage sexually

  • RookMoonHammer

    116d

    Im demisexual, so I'm attracted to people's personalities. But my bipolar 2 has the side effect of hypersexuality during manic, so I'm just one catch 22 worth of messed up.

  • SBelleC

    116d

    Scientifically, there are more of the hormones present needed for sex in the morning after you wake up so that's likely another reason earlier in the day is more enjoyable. (: just fun fact lol

  • SunnyShark

    116d

    I don't think I have ever had an orgasm in my life. I can get wet and I feel pleasant tingles and sometimes it feels like something could happen but it never does. I get right on what I think might be the edge and then it just backs off completely. There's no full body reaction of shaking and arching and sobbing. No mind going blank or goosebumps or toe curling. It's just... Nice. Just a mildly pleasant sensation that never overwhelms or leaves me breathless. I get aroused here and there but it's more of a bodily function than an intimate yearning. I'd rather just knock it out alone with a sexual aid than pretend I'm not bored out of my skull and impatient for the whole song and dance to be over for my husband. He enjoys it and I endure it for him. My g-spot is either missing or malfunctioning because I've tried to find it multiple times with no luck. My clitoris is the best bet to feel the most sensation but I have to practically abuse it to feel anything noteworthy and never anything to write home about. It's depressing tbh. I feel like I've tried everything and it just can't seem to happen for me.

    • Azaria

      110d

      right I was thinking something was wrong with me but I know I’m not alone

    • MorganVL

      90d

      see the obgyn for help on that since my obgyn helped my gspot and clitoris to work properly again

  • pagan

    116d

    Honestly for me sex isn't just the intercourse, but I also don't think it's bad to abstain. Everyone is valid and it's the thought that matters more than anything.

  • Azaria

    110d

    Still a virgin but have a high sex drive

  • sloth_lover

    110d

    My meds have really hindered mine to the extent where I'm not even interested in it anymore and feel like I could live without it for the rest of my life. I talked to my doctor and said that the sertraline im on is a big med that can cause it

  • Swerve

    110d

    I don't have a sex life because my condition attracts narcisist who want to take advantage of me. I also have this problem where I do have a sex drive, but I'm not nearly interested as "the next guy" who's willing to lie his ass off, say/do anything and empty his pockets to get it.

  • NicheCacophony

    110d

    I went from nothing to reckless hookups back to nothing. So I guess it affected me negatively (?)

  • PiperGrimm

    110d

    I'm only usually sexual with myself as of late and because of mental health and trauma I am demisexual so it makes it very hard to have sexual or romantic relations of any kind but that isn't due to any meds I have.

  • kittyrose

    104d

    My condition makes me hard to be around most of the time, so finding someone who likes me enough to want to have sex is hard. Doesn't help that I'm demisexual, so hook ups with strangers aren't my thing.

    • Scali

      104d

      what Is demisexual????

      • kittyrose

        104d

        demisexual is when you're only sexually attracted to people if you know them on a deeper level.

  • Scali

    104d

    I enjoy sex very much, even though my libido is not very high. I haven't had any sexual contact since I left my last wife. I refuse to have sex before marriage again, And I am Not marrying Anyone that I don't know We'll beforehand. If she Ever cuts me off, Unless it's for a Valid reasonable cause, I am OUT! Life is too short to be wasting time trying to make something out of a hole!

  • finnigan

    104d

    pocd and hocd have ruined my sex life and zoloft unfortunately affects my ability to orgasm, but it’s either sex or being able to function on the daily. it’s sad that i have to choose between the two because sex is one of my favorite things to do.

  • Lamunchkin

    103d

    It’s gone bruh. Just gone!

  • Aquarius_Mage

    103d

    Most of the time sex just makes me feel cheap and used, so I take care of it myself. I can perform just fine. I just don't like the way being with someone else makes me feel.

  • Ziggy_B

    103d

    I generally avoid sex, I'm a virgin still but it has been hard. As someone who has BPD, sex has been a tricky subject for me. I'm prone to risky behaviors and my feelings are easily manipulated by my own brain so I can't say I haven't wanted to but at the same time, I acknowledge that I usually change my mind about a person, situation or even feelings toward myself and my body so easily. I'm waiting to get in a better place in my life and better headspace before trying it out. It also helps that it makes me feel superior to the person who wants to have sex with me and like I have full control but that's a whole other thing that even I don't fully agree with.

    • cinnabunni

      100d

      That might be worth discussing with a mental health professional as well, there’s the indicator of a narcissism comirbidity that it’s good you seem to be aware of!

  • Heather21

    102d

    Never had sex, my parents control everything, and I've never been in a relationship.

  • plant

    102d

    I have sex with my partner, but I don't experience sexual desire when she's not with me

  • Crypt6

    101d

    I'm Asexual and single. Probably for life because nobody sticks around very long once they find out I don't want to have sex at all.

  • cinnabunni

    100d

    My husband and I manage around my IC, but I have to ask my primary if I can go on low dose antibiotics going forward to stop the chronic UTIs

  • wilted_da1sies

    100d

    As someone who has had issues with consent with this topic, I find it really hard to connect with that part of myself.

  • furry.wolf

    100d

    Tbh, I've been more sexually active bc of them... Is that weird?

  • HerbalJelly

    98d

    I'm a sex-repulsed asexual, so nothing I guess? It gets hard when doctors believe it must be a side effect of something. But I'm like, no I'm good. This is the way it should be.

  • minime273

    98d

    I'm asexual, so nothing partnered (lol) but the biggest difference is that one of my meds slightly lowers my sex drive, thank goodness.

  • IndigoBro

    97d

    For my folks with anxiety, how do you manage anxiety enough to pursue sex & intimacy? I feel stress about responsibilities kills my ability to engage in an activity that requires you to pause, relax and be present.

  • m__

    97d

    i feel like if i have sex with somebody i’m manipulating them so i just don’t do it

  • Faerie_Goddess

    95d

    I have always had & always will have a high sex drive! No matter how much I weigh. Even if my ex partners don't find me attractive. I have found others who do enjoy all 320 lbs of this & are willing to work around my 'limitations' & still satisfy everyone all around

  • BlueJ01

    94d

    My endometriosis caused almost complete sexual dysfunction over the last couple of years. I’m in my early 20s and this has been utterly devastating

  • Samhams

    93d

    Out the damn window - thank you Lexapro and depression 😮‍💨

  • Koifishdreams

    93d

    Been single for a while so idk

  • jojoPanda

    93d

    A little tmi i am in the mood a couple times a week, but my husband has low libido

  • Yuley

    91d

    I have sex less frequently and it's usually just when my partner wants it because sometimes it can be painful for me, and sometimes when I do want it it's on a day that I can't because my fiancé has to work.

  • MorganVL

    90d

    I'm find my answer in the comments. My boyfriend and I are very careful and have a position that's most comfy for me so I'm not in extreme agonizing excruciating pain of any sorts since he knows how bad my issues can get and how bad flareups can get so he's very careful and asks me if he's allowed to do certain stuff to me so he can do it only if I'm comfy enough for him to do it

  • JJ_W

    90d

    Birth control has changed it for me - my drive is definitely lower.

  • tea444

    77d

    what sex life lmao

  • Pheonyx

    67d

    I'm Asexual! I've never experienced any sexual attraction or feelings for anything before, so I wouldn't know if any of my disorders or medication would have an impact on that aspect of my life anyway :)

  • Something_Strange

    66d

    My sex life isn't real

  • WhiteFlamingo

    66d

    My boyfriend is very supportive and understanding of my Tourette Syndrome. He even senses when I'm about to have a tic because he pays such close attention to my movements. When we're intimate and I have to stop or move away from him because of a tic, it doesn't cause a problem at all. The mood isn't lost because he responds positively. I'm really grateful for that.

  • EryngoBragh

    66d

    What sex life 😥

  • Jewelicorn

    66d

    Sometimes no affect at all, sometimes increases it, sometimes voids it completely for extended periods of time

  • InsidiousAnomaly

    65d

    I'm asexual in general so been abstaining as the norm for a while now. It's kinda boring as one of the main characters...i rather watch. Maybe feel something.

  • Coke

    65d

    I’m bipolar so libido been feeling way up in a very serious and wonderful relationship and can feel self conscious about it but hopefully alls well and the mania will subside

  • colourfulburrito

    64d

    I've had an interest in sex but I've had trauma twice and just can't bring myself to sleep with anyone. I have that thing where your female parts don't even open to take a tampon because of trauma. But if I ever do, I'm worried it'll be really painful for my body with my joints.

  • Sevyn0Sevyn

    61d

    The swings between sexually frustrated and totally abstinent are annoying but manageable

  • Sparkle23

    51d

    Most of the time its fine just painful, on bad days its not possible

  • Aaronb03

    51d

    I've been manic and hypersexual but now with new meds I haven't felt the desire to have sex in months. Honestly I'm okay with that, I have past sexual trauma and I'm glad enough to avoid triggers

  • PDKB_Angels

    51d

    Non-existant but not due to anything on my part. Hubby was severely injured on the job in '09, and well, you get the idea.

  • walkerstalker

    51d

    stopped taking antidepressants because of it

  • PurpleReigns

    51d

    Menopause and meds have stolen all my sexual desire 😢 thank God for my patient husband 💜

  • Kadair

    51d

    It isn't like it use to be for sure. It has stolen some of my desire. Most of the time it is very lacking. Every now and then I would say is what it is now.

  • Swedish_Fletcher

    51d

    As an intersex person, having abnormal genitals make sex life hard. It's difficult to find someone who understands and wants to part take in sexual activities anyways.

  • sapphic

    50d

    Between chronic pain and psych meds, sometimes it’s hard to be intimate with the person I love most

  • frog.0928

    50d

    I can't do some positions and stay in one spot for long. And sometimes I get too depressed for that type of lifestyle

  • Bigdaddyc9

    50d

    I got a penile fracture that couldn’t be surgically repaired so I got Titan coloplast penile implant . Best thing I ever did for myself

  • BingoosLover

    50d

    I love sex and I have a massive sex drive but unfortunately chronic vaginal problems and joint mobility issues make it incredibly difficult sometimes. It isnt great when you start heavily bleeding mid sex or your hip pops out. But yknow. You win some you lose some!

  • Beckboop

    47d

    Just need someone who is supportive enough with my anxiety

  • Misssun

    47d

    Idk why but I usually find sex cringy if I’m not on something. And I don’t know why

  • SR96

    47d

    My mind instantly ruins it. 'You're fat hes going to think you're fat' 'You've put so much weight on hes going to see it' And then im pinching and feeling and get completely distracted by it. And then I hate myself for it afterwards

  • Blue001

    47d

    I have a fear of physical contact because of my ptsd. I want to be intimate like cuddle and kisses but I’m just terrified. Anxiety just rises of the possibility that I might have to kiss someone. I get flash backs and body dysmorphia and everything just gets overwhelming. Can anyone relate or is it just me? Xx

    • PrincessTinkerbell

      46d

      hello, I have just posted underneath you.. Just read your comment and I feel I can relate.

  • PrincessTinkerbell

    46d

    I have CPTSD and was triggered by an anniversary a couple of months ago.. Now I can't let my boyfriend touch me, luckily he's understanding and wants to work through it with me and not just run..

  • Teema

    46d

    My partner has been really understanding. I’m in the process of getting diagnosed with ulcerative colitis, the constant stomach pain and fatigue was a nightmare. They didn’t know what was causing the pain so they put me on a “precautionary” antibiotic which ended up giving me a yeast infection. Then after that I got hemorrhoids. So even though the pain went down significantly since the start we haven’t had sex in 3 months because of all the other stuff. It’s been so frustrating because I want to have sex! There’s just a fear of sudden pain or a really bad fart haha

  • Chicken_Nugget16

    46d

    I havnt been able to with my partner for a year , it’s just too painful with the endometriosis and he understands but a year is a while . My health doesn’t seem to be getting anywhere however I think this Js something that I can help but I don’t know how .

  • Chicken_Nugget16

    46d

    I thought the doctors or health advisors would give more advice with sex being painful and what things to try to help but they havnt . I’m only 21 and it’s quite embarrassing that I can’t x it’s a normal thing and it shouldn’t be soo painful so any advice on things that I can try would be so helpful xx also I was never crazy about sex the way my friends were . I don’t know if that’s just me or the fact I’ve been on contraception since age of 11 and I know that can decrease certain levels x

  • Joany

    43d

    I've suffered from PTSD all of my life, due to invasive medical procedures that have left me scarred since I was born, given a condition I was born with (Bladder Exstrophy). Yet, Katrina, the trauma holder within my system (I have D.I.D), she has a high sex drive, so I would say, that she and I (the host), often do things that I completely forget about the following day, and it leaves me confused. I would say, I'm personally more of an asexual, while she's the one who influences risky decisions I make, (and often regret), with my sex life 😅

  • BendNotBreak

    43d

    I get occasional times where I want sex, but they only last about an hour or so. Most of the time, I'm too nauseous, tired, or in pain to even think about it, and the few times I have had sex, the pain in my hips is excruciating for days after to the point its just not worth it. I'm a gay trans man, and I cant do anal intercourse due to my lower GI conditions, really struggle with oral intercourse due to tmj disorder and jaw dislocations, and anything involving my hands is really difficult due to locking and dislocating. I also have a lot of trauma relating to sexual assault which has caused some panic attacks in the past when attempting to have sex, and always makes the whole thing anxiety inducing. I'm still working on the trauma many years later and it's getting easier but it's slow progress

  • Ma91

    43d

    I think on the contrary I suffer from hypersexuality as a way to cope with high levels of stress. but it’s as addictive as a drug, and most of the times, especially when I’m really really down, I feel unable to control my impulses and feel them extremely guilt about it

  • bellacourse

    43d

    I actually get hypersexual and use sex as a coping mechanism. It gives me serotonin and makes me feel wanted/attractive which helps my depression. Plus I feel like that's the only way I can receive affection/attention a lot of the times. I feel super guilty about using sex that way but I can't help it. I'm like legit addicted to it

  • sonicobsesinter

    41d

    I've never had a sexual encounter or even dated much. I feel kind of weird for this.

  • SecondChance

    41d

    Must have lots of sex now

  • QueenChronic

    40d

    My chronic pain makes it impossible to perform some sexual acts I enjoyed, and it’s really difficult for me and for my partner. 😥

  • Claude03

    40d

    Meds interfere with sexual function. Physical pain limits physical ability. Mental health decreases libido.

  • Bunny73

    39d

    When I don't take my anti depressant my sex drive drops a lot and with my anti depressant it's still pretty low but if I smoke some weed I get so h***y that my fiance is dragged to the bedroom as soon as I get my hands on him

  • Cargo

    38d

    As a woman who's converting to catholicism I don't commit adultery, end of.

    • KratomEater

      38d

      that’s really great! That’s the beauty of Alike, there are many different people here who have a safe place to come and share their thoughts and experiences! Many people here are of such different walks of life and beliefs. We support anyone here regardless of belief or they way people live their lives. 😊 message any of us if you need to talk.

  • rose27

    38d

    ❤️

  • Feral

    38d

    Well im aroace. Ive been since 2020. I never found that relationships really worked for me. But im autistic and so its really hard to tell romantic and platonic relationships apart. Most of the time. Im really happy with a friends with benefits situation but just romantic type feelings where i can kiss them and itd just be platonic. But my anxiety plays a huge role in it. Im terrified to have sex bc of babies and shit even if i cant and if we didnt even do it. Im just very anxious about all of it. So i just avoid it and im taking time to myself to make sure i can love myself before loving someone else

  • Gingeralamode

    37d

    I have a mental block due to PTSD

  • J.ess

    36d

    I have no libido at all

  • alis.aw

    32d

    Used to be pretty sexual. Now terrified of it. My experiences have ruined this aspect for me. It makes my stomach turn.

  • Stuart88

    32d

    I hate my body because my leg has been amputated

  • Stuart88

    32d

    So not interested in it anymore

  • Laellaxe

    31d

    I am excruciatingly horny with nobody to assist. Masturbating only does but so much.

  • Jacquiblu2

    31d

    I haven’t had sex in so many years I think I forgot how. My chronic pain and joint issues would make it interesting if the opportunity ever presented itself.

  • flaleelee

    31d

    All of the above unfortunately

  • betsybetsybetsy2021

    31d

    I used to call myself a "serial monogamist"... I wasn't easy but my love interests never lasted long because I really wasn't attracted to them to begin with, I just enjoyed companionship. People want to fix this about me. I don't need drugs to change my libido, I just need people to stop trying to fix me and to listen to what I think my future should look like. I am an adult, but somehow people have gotten this idea that I need fixing and it is exhausting. This was my childhood abuse, a parent who deflected all problems onto me as the scapegoat. The thing is that I have something impeding my progress... It was legal and no one ever helped me with that. They wanted to change my religion, education, mental health, but none wanted to change the limitations established by courts.

  • Jazzyj1448

    30d

    I'm asexual and aromantic so I have no sex life lmao

  • Bigdaddyc9

    30d

    Serious penile fracture that couldn’t be surgically repaired so I got Titan Coloplast penile implant . 24/7 woody

  • RyeRyeBread

    30d

    It's great until afterwards, when I've fucked all my spoons away 😥😂😂😟

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