Twenty

92d

I don't think I can realistically get better around my dad BUT i also am nowhere near ready to move out. I am not financially stable at all and I don't have my license etcetc ~ I don't know what to do. I need to be in a better place mentally to get all of that done but I can't with my dad

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Depression

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  • darkstarrynight

    92d

    I relate to what you have said, how about you do one small thing a day, to get you ready to move out? That way, it's less stressful for you. If you need any further advice, I'm here.

  • 4byfour

    92d

    My therapist told me to put myself in survival mode. When I couldn’t move out, she told me to do whatever I could to create external motivation. Depression makes it hard to have internal motivation, so it helped me a lot. If you have a friend, ask if you can live with them. Perhaps they can push you a little too if you ask! Or find a place to put your money where you can’t spend it, so you’re forced to get a job/etc. it could be bad advice, and I totally get it, but jumping and landing somewhere is so much better than going through the motions all your life.

    • 4byfour

      92d

      She also said the goal wasn’t to land anywhere though, it was to find myself in a position where I couldn’t stop working for myself. So for me, I got an apartment to get myself to work. And work kept me out of my head. And away from my family. So when I’m depressed, I can’t go back. I have something I HAVE to take care of, unless I wanna starve, you know?

  • FrozenFawn

    92d

    I'm in the same position with my parents. Are you able to create a safe place that is just yours in the house? That helps a lot. Focus on the spaces you can control and feel better in.

  • kk062001

    92d

    I am right there w you. I need to move out soooo bad but I can’t bc I have all these health problems that cause money. and apartments are sooo expensive rn!! I saw someone said to put yourself in survival mode, i’ve been doing that. everything I say to family and friends is base level. I tell my therapist everything.

    • kk062001

      92d

      I’ve been picking up shifts left and right. i’ll stay as late as I can at work, get home and sleep. i’m lucky enough that my mom works day shift and I work 2nd shift. so our paths haven’t crossed recently.

  • JingleP

    92d

    I have a friend in a similar situation and I feel unable to help them especially with my own mental health. Try to stay out of the house and spend as little time with him as possible, and more time with your support system if you can. I know my friend suffered a lot having to stay home during the pandemic. Hoping the best for you 💕

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