froggoblinking

197d

I'm 25 and I have my own place, I have a partner and a child, I work, and I work a little more on the weekends at another job. but I'm 25 and I don't have my lisence.
I got my permit about last year. I've tried driving less than a handful of times. I've sat in a parking lot and just felt it out and moved forward and turned a bunch but severely less than whats expected of a 25 yo who has had a permit for about a year. my partner drives me to work and back everyday. I walk to my weekend job bc it's close.
She is exhausted. she wants me to be able to drive myself. She feels like a chauffeur. I want to keep practicing but it gives me hardcore anxiety. I always tell her ill practice at (x) day and then I over think it and find my way out bc I panic about it. I want to drive myself too. I find the idea of bringing myself places very nice and I dream of the day I can go on a road trip with my family and take turns so the other can sleep. or jist take my family on adventures, or to the park, or just a nice drive with some music on. I want it very badly but it is so over whelming. I feel like I might be so engulfed in this fear that I may never get my license and my partner will end up resenting me.

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Lethargy

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  • Kitkat0417

    197d

    I had the same thing going on for me last year. I found that driving with my partner helped my anxiety a lot more than when I drove by myself. I had the same dream to I always thought of what it would be like to take turns driving or drive myself and my my kids to the park or just the store. I understand how you feel. I'm sorry you're going through this.

    • froggoblinking

      197d

      someone is always in the car with me. It's always my partner but one time it was my brother in law

    • froggoblinking

      196d

      the time I drove w my bil is the only time I went on the road and I was visibly shaking after. More like shivering actually. It was weird and terrifying. There's so many things you have to focus on at once. I know eventually for people it just becomes like second nature but the gauges, the speed limit, the signs, your lights, and signals.

  • deardiary

    196d

    hello! i have a post about driving anxiety on my page, and what’s helped me tbh is practicing more. i know it’s easier said than done, but i had to learn to not let my anxiety possess me and become my identity, and control what i do and don’t do. so even when i was anxious, i would get behind the wheel and practice. it really was a big F U to my anxiety and it felt so so so good every single time. when you do drive more (not “if” because i know you can do it), you’re going to realize that the world and life and driving in general is NOT as scary as your mind is making it out to be and you’ll feel really super silly like i did. seriously - we don’t often realize that something is only as terrifying as your anxiety is making it out to be. we give it too much credit and acceptance. you have to make the conscious mental effort to be more aware of this and choose to not limit your perception and analyzation of a situation. don’t get me wrong, i still get anxiety about driving, but it’s not nearly as bad as it used to be, and each time you’ll get better. trust meeee. i promise. we all have to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. or else, we won’t grow. this rant was so long but i hope it helps. please don’t hesistant to dm me if you need advice or motivation (and anyone else who reads this)! i believe in you!!! please keep driving. 🫵🥹

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