I feel so exasperated with people! I am expected to keep up with everything, to reach out first, but yet they're not expected to do any of that. I'm expected to be honest but when I am, people ignore me instead of telling me exactly what I did wrong because I genuinely don't know what I did wrong. I don't genuinely understand why people have to follow different expectations than me.
Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
I'm sorry you're going through this. I know how you feel and I wish I had an answer for you but know that there are people out there who understand and accept you for you and will make accommodations for you. It may take a while to find them but you'll get there. I wish you luck
I think people just expect everyone else to be the same as them, to experience things the same as them, and if people don't then those people have to accommodate for their expectations. It's frustrating. I had a boss who didn't pay attention enough to realize that I took a lot longer to do things because of my tics. We got in a huge argument because she expected me to do the dishes in maybe ten minutes after my scheduled shift end, when I would have actually been there for about an hour after. I couldn't stay that long because I had plans. Then she acted like it was my fault for not telling her when she would have known if she had just paid attention. People just can't fathom others struggling with things that seem so simple to them.
The only advice I can give is to tell people when you meet them that they need to tell you when you do or say something wrong because otherwise you won't have a clue. And keep telling them because they're careless and won't remember. Maybe even call them out for it. I keep telling my boyfriend that about hinting things to me because he still doesn't get it. I don't understand hints! I need him to tell me things flat out.
I know. Same here. I'm sorry. *hugs*
I'm sorry you're going through this. I completely understand because I feel the same way. If you need someone to vent/talk I'm here!
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