Struggling with Relationship Strain and Communication

I think the letter is a good idea. IT’s communication in a relationship that struggles with it. My partner and I both have ADHD. She also has Complex PTSD and possibly Bipolar disorder, exacerbated by ADHD. This makes it really really hard for both of us to express our feelings in a constructive manner that doesn’t involve raised voices or interrupting each other. We both fear not being heard. Not to mention we are both so damn stubborn. If the letter is not hurtful it is a good idea to present it in the most gentle way. Just don’t start by saying “don’t get mad” I wrote you a letter expressing my feelings. I feel as though that usually triggers people into thinking, oh great how are they going to make me mad. Making them react with anger. Hang in there I’m going through the exact same thing but my lady would probably be writing the letter. This post has inspired me to suggest to my significant other that we should exchange letters expressing our feelings. Thanks for sharing. You’ll do alright. And everything will work out.

How about not giving your partner the letter and instead just take a break. It seems that you are exhausted and hurt, don’t do anything that could lead to another hurting moment. You don’t need to be in a relationship that makes you feel bad, but also is it a good idea to make the other person suffer? And do they deserve that?