Struggling with Unrequited Love and Mixed Signals

Yes..me too..l have pictures of us in happier times all over..but lve got to put it behind me..the only thing l can do now is look for the good things he taught me..lessons lve. learnt and bless him anyway..be much wiser next time..if there is a next time.

I’ve had that happen to me and like a year later I got closure but from God not by the guy. Eventually the guy came back around like two years later and apologized but by then I was already moved on. If you can’t talk to him about how you feel and have closure with him, try to find the closure on your own and move on because it sounds like he’s one of those guys just looking to mess around and not really take you or any girl seriously. I wish you the best ❤️

Just to be clear, guys go through that too so you're not alone or stupid because you're a girl. We just don't communicate on the same wavelength as girls and think differently. I've liked plenty of girls who I thought liked me back but didn't. The only difference is the girl would tell me no. A guy might not, and I think the major reason, sadly, is he's weighing his options and evaluating his emotions. We don't talk with other guys about it, and we don't even expose all of what we think about to our partners. It's ok for him to be sure of his feelings first, and tbh figuring out which of 2 girls he likes is the same as girls picking between 2 guys. It's normal. The part that sucks is that we fail to communicate that effectively and assume you understand what stage of the process were at. As a guy, I love hearing stories from a girls perspective because I get to see how stupid we as guys act because I know plenty of times I've been in that place. I hope this helps. If you ask me, you can never have too much communication in a relationship, even platonic, so if you want to know what he really thinks, just ask. Also know that unlike girls, if he says no, that's not a definite.

For the longest time yes, and I know that my situation is one of minority, but after waiting a few years when he told me he wasn't ready to date anyone, we both went through our share of different partners, we ended up talking again and getting together, and we are now getting close to our two year anniversary. As for before this happened, I was heartbroken and struggling to cope with feeling lost like the love I had for him wasn't there. But after a while of talking to friends and opening up a little more, things improved. And when the time came when we were ready things were different. I hope the best for you! ❤️

Sorry

My problem is I feel like the more I go back the more it'll hurt and eventually lose all feelings for them. It works eveytime before but now I don't know it just hurts so bad and I keep letting him back in all over again. I already know how this is going to go...

I'm in the same boat right now 😅 it really hurts and I dont know how to get over him when he keeps coming back. I miss him so much, but I know having hope is only hurting me

I’m frustrated that a part of me is still having feelings and I ended up encountering him again a couple weeks ago after not seeing or talking to him for like 6 months. I don’t where his mindset is with talking to me.

Although I haven’t dated the guy, something someone similar happened with me. So this guy is someone I’ve had feelings for a while, months ago. I thought his intentions of talking to me became clear when he ended up asking for my number and if I’d be interested in hanging out. Of course I said yes and was looking forward to it being brought up more. But then 2 weeks later, around the same day he texted me a second or third time, he ended up messaging one of my closest friends on Instagram. He messaged her wondering who she was cause she accidentally liked a post of his as she scrolled through his profile, after I had updated her on the guy. She had let me know how he ended up asking her if she’d be interested in hanging out sometime. When she said yeah if we were in a group setting she’d be down. But he read her text and left her on “seen”

Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry😔

Definitely. I asked out a guy and we were planning on starting a relationship. He, few days later said he needed a break for his mental health. I gave him space and a few months later, he was dating my best friend. It sucks. I still have some feelings towards him and it definitely hurts in a way that can't be explained very easily.