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Leo_Yanofsky

742d

i am asexual because of trauma, and i struggle with feeling broken because of it. i worry that no one will ever love me because of my desire to not have sex. does anyone else experience asexuality from trauma? and if you do, how do you cope with the negative feelings you get because of it?

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    • Ribbit

      740d

      I experience sex repulsion and hypersexuality. It took me a long time and the right person to be comfortable with even expressing my issues with it. I eventually found out i am capable of enjoying it sometimes. But thats not the case for everyone. And thats ok :) you can get pleasure from tons of other sources in life and theres lots of people out there who are the same way. When someone loves you they wont hold your trauma against you.

    • Ribbit

      740d

      I experience sex repulsion and hypersexuality. It took me a long time and the right person to be comfortable with even expressing my issues with it. I eventually found out i am capable of enjoying it sometimes. But thats not the case for everyone. And thats ok :) you can get pleasure from tons of other sources in life and theres lots of people out there who are the same way. When someone loves you they wont hold your trauma against you.

    • avid

      740d

      I struggle with the same thing. coming to terms with asexuality itself is super hard and I don’t know how to get over the hump of negative feelings/deprecating thoughts. I do know this though: if someone doesn’t respect your desire to not have sex they don’t really love you. when someone loves you they’ll respect your wishes and you’ll know that they’re the one. hope this helps a little bit.

    • Violet_Beauregarde

      741d

      Look into EMDR therapy. My PTSD is minimal now. Life is too short to let trauma rob you of a great sex life.

    • McKenna1998

      742d

      Oh my gosh I struggle with this same thing on a daily basis. It’s nice to know someone else feels the same and is also asexual bc of trauma

    • Hellelujahs

      742d

      I am ace as well! I frequently develop crushes (like a teen would) that has nothing related to sex, and as soon as it starts becoming anything close to a possible relationship I immediately shut down. It is infuriating and difficult to explain to others around me without going into a ton of detail about things I don’t want to discuss.

    • GeminiForest

      742d

      I'm ace and aro because of trauma myself. Know despite what you gone through you're valid and not broken. What helped me was talking to others who are on the ace umbrella. Demi, Grey, aro, ect... And finding that sense of community is great. It takes a few tries but it's wonderful in the long run. Someone will love you despite your sexuality. Focus on you first and take care of you before worrying about relationships.

    • GlitterRush

      742d

      Im ace due to trauma too and i found the love of my life and i hope to call her my wife soon. She's actually ace too and she helps me feel better about my trauma

    • KitKat723

      742d

      I do! You are perfectly valid the way you are, sex doesn't define us. Idk if it's a coping mechanism but i know in media i struggle a lot with all the sexual themes these days so i have learned to google trigger warning for different show that help me skip around or know i shouldn't watch it. I'm sorry if that's off topic just thought i'd share because media is a big part of my life

    • Ace_Spider_Queen

      742d

      I am asexual, and experience repulsion because of trauma! I understand what you're going through. My girlfriend still loves me all the same, sex or not. Your worth is not defined by your want for sexual interaction.💕

    • Eiram

      742d

      I have sexual desires, but as soon as anyone shows any sign of interest in me I become repulsed by the thought of even being around them. I can't have sex without feeling like I want to crawl in a grave and never come out

    • Ez

      742d

      Me! It took a lot of research and affirmation but I eventually stopped feeling negative about it. Took a few years though. To get through the negative thoughts I would just try to reaffirm myself and that's what worked best. Everyone's different, not broken. That's all. Best of luck!

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