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I tried to look up quotes to tell y’all what I’m feeling but I just can’t find the right words. I can’t describe how much I like this one guy and this one girl and I’m not supposed to like girls I’m supposed to be straight and make my family proud. No one knows at my school I’m not straight besides a faculty member who I trust somewhat..but the more I interact with the girl and the guy the more I fall for them. I know I will never be a hockey jock star like my guy crush likes but I have no idea whom my girl crush likes. The guy crush knows I like him and rejected me and lied to me several times but I still go after him. There’s a hole in my life and I’m trying to fill it. I want to fill that hole. I need to fill that hole. I can’t tell the girl crush I like her I will ruin our friendship it will be weird and strange and no never ever ever. Last time I did, it backfired and I left the school entirely for multiple reasons but that was one of them. I need to fall out of liking people but I just can’t stop. Any advice on how to fall out of love would be nice or anything else just commenting means a lot to me. Thanks for letting me rant.
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Also this doesn’t make it any easier but don’t get into a relationship with the guy. Lying is not the basis of a good relationship. That won’t make your crush go away per say— I haven’t figured out a way to do that— but I think it’s still important to keep at the front of your mind. Maybe try spending less time with him? You said that your crush has been growing as you spend more time with him.
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Hey! Lesbian here. I totally understand worrying about how your family will take it. Coming out was terrifying. You can do that in your own time, and you are not obligated to tell anyone you don’t want to. It can definitely be a struggle in terms of family that aren’t accepting. Mine personally found it a little weird at first but for the most part we’re worried about how much harder this would make my life (in terms of homophobia and safety and stuff). Unless your family has hard set political values or you think there would be problems telling them, they should come around eventually and be happy when you are happy that you found someone. They should still be proud of you. I’m proud of you. Despite being in such difficult circumstances you are still persevering. You will get through this. I promise. But yes, the iconic gay problem of falling for your best friend. Bed relatable. I had an intense crush on my best friend. The kicker was I knew that we would be totally incompatible in a relationship in literally every single way. Anyways, I went to college, found a girlfriend and we’ve been together for three and a half years! And we are getting married in May. You will find the one someday:)
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re feeling that way. I have felt similarly before with crushes. Your feelings are totally understandable and quite normal. I have previously felt desperate with crushes, with this feeling almost like I have to make it work with them because it’s the only chance I have to fill the emptiness in me. I promise this is not the case. I understand from your other comments that you’ll see your therapist soon, this should help. It may be different for you, but for me it was important to fill this emptiness I felt with other things I valued as well (hobbies, spirituality, cultivating other friendships and familial relationships) as well as working on my own self worth. I would recommend having that be your focus in therapy. I found as I felt better about myself, my desperation for crushes and relationships lessened. As for your sexuality, it is okay to feel this way. 🤗 I hope you feel better ❤️
Hey! Thanks for coming on and sharing—even anonymously, it’s something I have a hard time doing, myself. I don’t have any good wisdom on falling out of love, or getting rid of a crush…. The only thing I can advise you, after being in a really complicated relationship situation, is that other people cannot truly fill that hole. It’s completely natural and human to long for belonging and connection and someone or someones to love and be loved by. It’s literally part of our evolution to want to connect with others. And I’m sure that being in the closet only makes it harder to do that. It must take a lot of bravery and effort to navigate all of that every day. Do you have or have you considered finding a therapist?
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@aldrwytch I have one but I skipped a week so I won’t be seeing her till Tuesday
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@YellowEeyore23 That’s tough, but I’m glad that you have that support at least. I hope they’re able to help when you do see them.
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