which mean he isn't actually doing therapy. He is showing up to shut you up, but he isn't doing any of the necessary work. Trust me. I have been with a man who had angry outbursts and dismissed my concerns when I brought them up (or responded with more anger.) He would do the same thing, every now and then (when he was close to losing me) apologize, sob, say he'd do anything. But he never ended up doing the "anything." He did end up hmmm.. throwing me to the ground and kicking me in the head repeatedly, telling the landlord in the place we rented together to kick me out immediately because he had moved out, showing up at my next home throwing things at my window and screaming, making false complaints to my apartments and getting me kicked out of said apartment, threatening to kill himself on multiple occasions, finally getting admitted to a psych ward and bold faced lying to them after I had already moved on to a new relationship, telling them we were still together and I cheated and that I needed to come pick him up.. the list goes on and on, the physical abuse started well after the emotional abuse, and I will die on this hill.. whether or not it will get better depends entirely on how they react when you raise concerns. I have also been with a man who had emotionally abusive tendencies and angry outburst, in some ways worse than the first, but did not put hands on me. When I talked to him about it, asked him about therapy, medications, explained to him what behaviors were hurting me and how, he listened. He was sometimes defensive, but for the most part, he admitted when he was wrong. He took therapy seriously and started treatment for several disorders, as well as seeking diagnosis and treatment for physical health problems that were contributing. He learned and respected my boundaries. He apologized and instead of "then just leave," said "I understand if you don't want to be with me anymore, but if you do, tell me how to fix this." And when I told him how, he did, every time. He is now the most patient and loving partner I've ever had and I plan to spend my life with him. I have seen both outcomes. The outcome with this guy is bad, I'm sorry. You really need to leave. Put your efforts into a situation that still has some hope.

😓 I hate when people do that. If I think something is wrong, I’ll make an appointment with my doctor. I no longer make appointments when I twist my ankle because I’ve twisted it so many times. 4 times in the past year.