Feeling Sad After Sex: How to Cope with Relationship Anxiety

how do you get rid of your anxiety thoughts? my brain keeps wanting to convince me that my bf is either cheating or leaving me. no matter how much reassurance I get from him or other people I've had this horrible feeling for weeks now. it's gotten to the point I want to break up I'm so scared. but I love him to death, he's my everything. already talking about marriage and how many kids he'd like.

Dealing with Relationship Insecurity

I got a boyfriend recently and he’s out of town and lately I’ve been feeling like I’m forgetting how to do stuff by myself. Like I want to see him all the time. And anytime I’m alone with my thoughts all I think of is him. And it can get so overwhelming to the point where I start crying because it’s the only way I can express myself without seeming needy to him since were so early in the relationship. I can’t tell if the crying is because of me or him. Or if it’s my fault and I just need to get ahold of myself. But I either try fighting the thoughts and try to force myself to not think of them and then I try letting myself think of them and it still hurts. Both ways hurt. Fighting and accepting hurt. And I keep telling myself “i can’t hate myself”, “I can’t think the worst”, “I have to do better” , “I have to be able to take care of myself, even if he’s not here.” , “I can’t give up” , “i can’t disappoint anyone after they’ve done so much for me.” Thousands of thoughts just run through my head. I’ve tried meditating with the thoughts but it’s just really uncomfortable. The only thing that can help is a full-on distraction. I try to journal, deep breathe, talk to people, express myself through art or writing, relax, meditate, take a bath, play video games, or watch a bunch of movies.. it always just comes back. I’m just confused and I don’t know what to do with myself. I’m trying to do art to help and work on my business, but I can only do it for so long before I need to do something else. My therapist has said just do things that make you happy. And now I’m just trying to cope with this as best as I can. And even this trial has given me thoughts like, “should I give up on this relationship?” , “Am I suppose to feel this way?” , “is this relationship right for me?”