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PlatoLogic12

469d

I’ve been with my girlfriend for two years and it’s a really healthy relationship and I love her so much and I absolutely don’t plan to leave and neither does she. Sometimes tho I like have these moment where I just like forget that I know her and I just like panic and like think she’s gonna hurt me like people have in the past and it doesn’t show in a toxic way externally like I’ll normally shut down or have a panic attack or just something surrounding myself and I never project it onto her but I just hate feeling like that because it feels like I’m blaming her for wounds she didn’t create and in those moment and I fully am because like it feels like she is the person who made them. Idk I just wanted to put it out there and see what anyone had to say

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    • pandalacious

      466d

      Hmmm you didn't mention it, but it sounds to me like complex PTSD. I am not a professional and this is not a diagnose at all. Have you heard of the "crappy childhood fairy"? She has fantastic tools that helped me with my CPTSD symptoms. Worth a try, it's just a few YouTube videos 😁 big hug x

    • pandalacious

      466d

      Hmmm you didn't mention it, but it sounds to me like complex PTSD. I am not a professional and this is not a diagnose at all. Have you heard of the "crappy childhood fairy"? She has fantastic tools that helped me with my CPTSD symptoms. Worth a try, it's just a few YouTube videos 😁 big hug x

    • Fern99

      466d

      This is completely understandable for OCD. Remember that these thoughts are just passing thoughts that unfortunately stick too much. They feel real in the moment and can cause anxiety and panic, but accepting that they are just intrusive thoughts and will pass will help, I’m wishing you well 🫶

    • Gwen71

      468d

      Maybe you two should talk about how you feel.🙏

    • Ella101

      469d

      That’s understandable. I’ve been there and ruined my relationship because of it because I didn’t work through it the right way. So my advice to you would be to heal from the past hurt and trauma. If you don’t heal your wounds then you’ll bleed on those who didn’t hurt you. But don’t beat yourself up or pressure yourself, this is a normal to go through taken what you’ve been through. I would talk to her about this struggle (if you feel like she’ll understand) and say your working on it so that when you shut down she doesn’t feel some type of way. And therapy can help heal those wounds. You got this and everything will be okay ❤️ you’re so kind and loving to think about this and want to fix it.

      • PlatoLogic12

        469d

        @Ella101 that’s really well said and I really appreciate it. I currently don’t have access to therapy but I should soon and I’m working on it but that has been frustrating for a while because I am stuck in this rut of knowing what I need to fix it and not being able to get it and then just doing what I can to not let it affect other people

    • DariaFae

      469d

      Maybe one day if you are comfortable talking with her about your feeling and thoughts it can help calm everything down and help how silly those feeling are towards her. Because you said she would never hurt you but certain thought and feeling come rushing back like soo real. I know exactly what you mean and talking to them can help, especially if there is something small that might be seeing them off she could help figure it out too. Two minds are better than one ...

      • PlatoLogic12

        469d

        @DariaFae thank you, I appreciate the validation in feeling okay to ask for help and talk about it. I honestly do talk to her and it definitely helps and she is super gentle and kinda and understanding but I just feel guilt for making my wounds something she needs to be aware of even slightly. It’s just hard to feel like I deserve comfort or even joy because it feels like my own responsibility and I shouldn’t rely on or ask other people for it.

    • Amityzoe

      469d

      I feel you. I constantly expect my friends to hurt me. It's not fair. But it's a natural reaction for us. For right now, it's how we are. We're still trying to heal, and our wounds are not our fault anymore than they are our friends fault. Our trauma is going to get in the way sometimes. When we mess up, and we will sometimes, we just need to do what we can to fix it and move on. It's a journey and we all make mistakes sometimes

      • PlatoLogic12

        469d

        @Amityzoe thank you, I really needed that solidarity

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