Asking for Gas Money from My Boyfriend

Money is always weird. I've found its best to accept it when offered. I think my bf would have the same reaction if I rejected his offer and then came back and asked for money even if it was less. He's always happy to offer if he knows my funds are tight. He just wants to help. I think his reaction is warranted. People are weird with money. It has to be offered not asked for. I don't think you're in the wrong for wanting to support yourself or asking after he offered, but from his perspective he probably feels used, which was obv not your intention. My bf knows I'm weird about accepting money so if I can't afford something he just pays and vise versa. We both get paid on opposite schedules so it just works out that twice a month or so one of us is short on cash. Just explain why money makes you weird about it bc we all have our reasons and apologize for making him feel the way he feels and that it wasn't your intention.

I don't work because of my health and I have a lot of anxiety about asking my partner for money, but he is always very understanding and gracious. We've also been together about three years. At the end of the day, I don't think the initial reaction is even the problem, it's the fact that he's stood by it and won't apologize or at least talk through what happened. If you can't talk openly and honestly with him I think that's the real issue, it's how mu partner and I deal with everything - no matter what happens we can always talk without judgement. I hope you can find a way to approach the conversation in a way that works! One tip I learned from growing up with a therapist for a mom: use the format "I know, and, so". Make sure you approach him when he's calm and in a good mood. And then you use the format like this "I know" - acknowledge how they are feeling/their side of the issue - then "and" - gently remind them of your feelings, acknowledge that it's difficult for both of you - and finally "so" - offer constructive ideas for how to move forward together. For example, "I know this subject is difficult for you to talk about/I know that you are feeling frustrated or upset/etc, and it's hard for me to talk about too/etc., so what can I do to help you talk about this?/so can we have a conversation about this?/will you be able to listen to me tell you how I feel?/etc. Good luck! ❤️

You're boyfriend is at fault. I have similar money struggles often and my partner helps so much. I handle my finances very poorly but it is also something I need to feel stable. I would have reacted the same way if my partner did this. They should pay for the over-draft fee if there is one. I think this also calls for a serious apology. His reaction to you asking for 5 dollars is ridiculous. One thing ive been getting better about is accepting help, especially in the form of money. Usually when someone offers to pay for something my first instinct is to reject it politly. I've started accepting help, even if it is reluctantly. It's saved me some stress. You are allowed to accept help and im sorry your bf made you feel like you couldn't ask for help anymore. Stay safe.

Not your fault, y’all are supposed to be together and that means helping eachother even if you have to ask for a measly 5$, he shouldn’t be putting you down for that