Feeling Left Behind by My Younger Best Friend

Nobody after high school gives a crap about who you’ve slept with except misogynist men who care if women have slept with a lot of people. Having s*x early literally doesn’t define you in the slightest. It also does not mean you are attractive or worth it or anything like that, neither does the opposite mean the opposite. It just means you chose not to have s*x. I was in high school not too long ago. There are plenty of people who don’t care about who you’ve had s*x with. And literally only the immature ones would judge someone because they haven’t slept with someone else. Like it’s actually so stupid what kids will make fun of other kids for. Also if she’s somehow making you feel bad for not engaging in adult practices, you need to reevaluate your friendship because that is f*cking toxic. Also she might regret this all one day. So many people regret their first time, particularly because they were dumb teenagers making dumb decisions. Your brain is not fully developed. Don’t rush such an important decision. I’m not trying to invalidate your feelings or call you stupid, because I’m sure you’re smart, but you’re not as smart as you will be when your brain fully develops and you can more accurately decide and dictate your life.

Hey, Do you like this Lady more than a friend that you want to be in a race to win? Drugs are always going to be around don't matter on your age, I have never took drugs. Except the meds I have been put on by drs. I never went to parties cause I was more of a loner too. The whole world is friends ships, you could make friends on this app, neighbours with kids your ages, Volunteering ,work places the list is endless. I'm 34 with no idea how things are going in my life or where my life will lead. Take life at your own speed, enjoy all the seasons, because even when the seasons change and the trees are bear they still stand proud of who they are waiting on the season to change for the brighter. You will get there I promise.

Hey so lemme explain a few things to you I'm an adult at this point and I still don't know what the heck I'm doing with my life. I'm 22 now which to you probably seems like a lifetime away and trust me the time goes by very quickly. The thing about drugs is there always going to be there no matter if you are 16 or 80. You might not understand it fully, but when people do things like that it normally means they are trying to run away from something or fill some type of void they don't want to face. Drugs can be life-changing for better or for worse. The time period your going through right now is really difficult because it feels like the entire world is just this circle of friends you have or the high-school you go too, the things you've done, the things you haven't...but it's so much more than that. You gotta remember feelings aren't always reality. You might feel like you're a loser but your not. In fact you'd actually be really surprised how when you don't have experience in something the right people will be so excited to share things with you whether it be drugs, intimacy, a good movie, music, food, the things life is worth living for. I'm sorry this is long I promise I'm almost done. What I'm trying to say is it's your life. You get to make choices. And you don't have to make them all at once. She hasn't walked a mile in your shoes so why do you feel the need to run a marathon in hers? Do you know how much I'd give to experience a smores for the first time again? Let alone so many other things. There's a season for everything and everyone. Stop trying to rush to fall, just enjoy the summer and I promise you won't feel so pressured.

I'm 18 and my life is shot to hell as I am bed bound and for a while everyonr in my year group except close close friends thought I was dead as I just vanished from school. Actualyb bumped into some ppl and they were lictutaly amazed i was alive. I've not been to any parties, only had sex once. Only drug I've done is weed, niccotine and any prescription meds I have and I cant get drunk often as it messes too much with my medicine and I have in the past ended up in hospital. At first I was so angry I couldn't do all the things normal teens do (still am rly) but you have got to accept everyone is different. And know you can't make everyone happy. Let me tell you this, even though its super cliche. In a couple years you will look back and laugh at yourself. Don't force anything, it can go badly. I ended up in A&E (ER) Because i tried to hard to be like everyone else. Just let it happen in its own time. Talk to your friend, they seem to do lots of things I'm sure if you told them your priblems they will help. My bff lives with me now and ATM she is at her boyfriends house and I'm glad but I'm so angry she can be there yet I'm stuck in bed, I told her this and we worked it out and she helped me understand she wont leave me in the dust just because I can't do what she does.

*PACE, not lace, and EFFECT, not affect 😭