Is it wrong to not want kids because of my mental illness?

I'm pregnant right now and neither one of us have the mental health to do this. Idk what we were thinking. I feel awful for the baby. You're doing the right thing

You are ABSOLUTELY NOT 🚫 A BAD PERSON. You're actually a very kind and considerate person. Knowing yourself and your boundaries and not putting an innocent child into that mix is completely logical and should be complemented.

You don’t need anything to justify your reason for not wanting kids. It may be in your specific case due to mental illness, however, if someone just simply doesn’t want to have a kid there’s no reason they should feel any guilt over that choice. If others have issue with it, that is their problem, not yours. They need to get over it and accept that you don’t want to have the same life as they do. What you are doing makes complete sense and you can do whatever you feel is right. You can change your mind at any time and it’s no one’s business what you want to do with your life.

You don't even have to use your mental illness as an excuse for not having kids. No one HAS to bring spawn into this world. And if you just feel like you don't want to have the responsibility and you'd just rather figure life out on your own time then you do that!! And maybe 10 years down the line you'll decide you want kids. That's cool too. I've struggled with this idea for a long time now that I'm married and I'm starting a life with my husband. But even though the normal flow is finish highschool, go to college, meet a partner, get a job, get married, have kids. Who says you have to follow the same path? Don't let anyone shame you for deciding not to have kids for whatever reason it may be you're allowed to make that decision. I'm mid 20s and my husband and I have decided not to have kids. The in laws are upset about it but we want to live selfishly, if we want to go on a spontaneous trip for the weekend it will be much easier without a child. And I don't want to have kids so "I'll have someone to take care of me when I'm older" that's not a good reason to have offspring. And I do feel guilty when it comes to the in laws but at the end of the day they aren't going to raise them so I'm not going to have a child for the sake of someone else's happiness. And they still will get grandchildren from the other siblings. And I may change my mind in like 5 years or maybe I won't. But for whatever reason don't feel guilty for making a decision that you have every right to make.

Heck no! Thanks for being mature about it. I know I will be an awful parent so I dont want kids. Simple as that. Dont listen to societal standards of parenthood its dumb