Niniluv

224d

I’m not too sure what this is specifically. But its been causing me issues in my relationship. I tend to not have any active thoughts or thinking that im aware of. I just simply speak and whatever comes out my mouth comes out. Sometimes the things I say come off as rude or disrespectful and I hate that I can’t help it. Does anyone know how to help or experience anything similar? Id love to talk I don’t have any friends who I can relate to about my diagnosis. Although I was recently diagnosed (stated in profile) I have been dealing with these things for years and just being diagnosed especially so late into my life has been difficult for me.

Attention-Deficit Disorder

Depression

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Chronic Pain

Generalized pain

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  • E_Money

    224d

    You ok

    • Niniluv

      224d

      yes I’m ok its just been very difficult making sense of things and understanding what I can do to help myself. I dont know many others who have anxiety or depression so i have to figure out everything on my own and sometimes its hard to understand myself or make sense of things if I cant talk about it and relate.

  • Niniluv

    224d

    Plus I’m also getting medical attention for multiple other things and its been very stressful and a little lonely.

  • CameronElizabeth

    224d

    Hello, @Niniluv. I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing loneliness. I'm familiar with that feeling too. As far as saying whatever comes out of your mouth, I believe I went through something similar. My older sister tells me that for a period of time, I was rather rude and even mean to people. I believe her, but to this day, I cannot remember behaving that way. My best guess is that at the time, I was in so much pain and distress that I literally did not have the mental energy or capacity to think about anyone but myself. I'm learning to accept this as part of my past. Going forward, I highly recommend some mindfulness work. Meditation, tapping, walking in nature can all help slow down your mind and make you more aware of your thoughts. It may also be wise to ask for help. You could say to your partner, "I really don't want to hurt your feelings. Will you please help me and alert me when my words are unkind?" Something like that. 💕💕💕

    • Niniluv

      224d

      Thank you so much! Yes my therapist just told me that I can maybe make a joke out of it so I can bring more awareness to the things I say. But that definitely also helps. I’m getting my own place soon so I am hoping that lessens my symptoms and can you explain more with the tapping? I have tried some meditation before and mindfulness but I can’t seem to focus enough, maybe due to loud surroundings i’m not too sure yet. I’m sorry you can understand my loneliness but I’m glad I’m not alone in that sense. I see you were also recently diagnosed do you mind me asking how hard has it been for you? I usually feel alone in the sense that my diagnosis is new and I don’t have people to talk about it to or help me feel more “normal” and it’s just been difficult after 21 years trying control my symptoms and realize what are things I do that affect my daily life.

  • CameronElizabeth

    224d

    Tapping is like a guided meditation where you tap specific places on your body and repeat the lines. It's a way to help good messages get deep into your subconscious. I've also found it extremely helpful for falling asleep when my mind is busy, racing around. Just like guided meditation, you can tap for all different reasons. Sleep, anxiety, chronic pain, focus, and so on. Getting my diagnosis of ADHD was extremely validating for me. I've done a lot of crying, partly because of relief at finally understanding, and also because of grieving for all the time lost and because so many in my life do not understand. There are other forms of mindfulness that don't require you to sit still with your eyes closed. One is mindfulness with movement. For example, when you're walking, you concentrate on the bodily sensations you feel in your feet. Try looking up "mindfulness with movement" and see what comes up. ADHD is a tough gig, but you are not alone. It affects millions of people, and there are plenty of examples of people who have succeeded and lived their best lives anyway. I'm working consciously to not wallow in feeling like a victim. It's hard, and I don't always succeed in the moment, but that is my commitment. Will you join me in saying no to being a victim? With ADHD, knowledge is power. The more you learn about how your unique brain works, the more you can harness it to do what you want it to do. Medication also really helps, and so do friendships. Feel free to message me any time if you want to talk. 💕💕

  • Sydari

    224d

    I used to be like that too until I introduced meditation. Try it out, it helps you recognize your thoughts before they come out of de mouth.

  • anarchypixie

    224d

    Hey! Your post relates a lot to the inability to stay fully in the present. I also struggle with it as well and I have brain fog most days (everything is so blurry/cloudy) mixed with reactivity and lack of thought. It’s almost like I get consumed by a huge cloud, I usually wake up like that or it develops later on in the day. I highly recommend doing grounding techniques especially if you also suffer from Anxiety. Someone mentioned using Meditation and that’s a great way to bring yourself more awareness to the present. I wish you the best. 🐥🌟

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