StarGazer333

199d

Why is there nothing on the internet about women with a high s3x drive and men with low s3x drives? My fiancé acts like he doesn’t want me at all. He never tries… he doesn’t participate if I take control. He acts like we are only friends who kiss 😭😭

Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD)

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  • Pom.mom

    199d

    Maybe he’s asexual! one type of asexuality is having romantic desires (like kissing, and dates) but not sexual desires. Best advice is to talk to him about how you feel 💕

    • StarGazer333

      199d

      I tried talking to him but he won’t talk. All he says is “I’m sorry, idk what to say” 😭

      • Pom.mom

        199d

        heeeeck no. If it’s important to you it should be important to him. If he can’t care enough to talk about it he’s not a great partner. I’d say try couples therapy to talk though it but he sounds like someone who wouldn’t go if asked to :(

  • PuddingStone

    198d

    Could he be asexual? I am asexual! Some people just don't enjoy sex and it has nothing to do with how much they love you and are attracted to you. Try having a conversation with him about if he even wants sex, maybe. It could just be an activity he doesn't want to participate in, without meaning that he doesn't love you or isn't attracted to you.

    • Pom.mom

      197d

      this was my thought too but it doesn’t sound like he wants to be open or even talk about it to her :/

      • PuddingStone

        196d

        Communication is important so it sucks he doesn't want to :/ Maybe couples therapy would make him feel more open?

  • StarGazer333

    197d

    He says it’s because of stress and adhd. He says he has like 50 different thoughts going through his mind every 2 seconds and he says it’s so loud in his mind that he can’t focus on anything and he is getting irritated super easy because of it. He said he can’t enjoy sex because if he does perform the act his mind wonders off and he can’t concentrate and enjoy it, he can’t get horny. He did say that he will try therapy for his past trauma…

    • Pom.mom

      196d

      that’s awesome he finally started communicating! That’s great!

      • StarGazer333

        196d

        but is he telling me the truth?

  • Porkbun

    188d

    He has a low sex drive, it's normal. And unfortunate for us partners who have higher sex drives cuz then we feel like they don't want us. But they want us and love us, they just dont desire sex as often as us

    • StarGazer333

      188d

      thank you. It’s really really hard to deal with. I just want to get rid of my sex drive and Atleast match his before it ruins us

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