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Cricket01

617d

I’m lonely but I’m ok with not having friends… I don’t understand it lol… Like I could reach out and ask how they’re doing and make plans. I care about them. But I also just want to go out alone and stay at home alone but I’m also lonely🤯

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    • SourLemons

      617d

      struggling with loneliness and sometimes having the desire to be alone are not always opposites. i get that, too. i think they're just the product of two different needs, of belonging in genuine relationships and of needing space to yourself and recharge. and it's also okay to fulfill both needs, too. some days i go all out with making time for friends, other days i say no thanks to everyone. it's good to have balance and take care of yourself :>

    • SourLemons

      617d

      struggling with loneliness and sometimes having the desire to be alone are not always opposites. i get that, too. i think they're just the product of two different needs, of belonging in genuine relationships and of needing space to yourself and recharge. and it's also okay to fulfill both needs, too. some days i go all out with making time for friends, other days i say no thanks to everyone. it's good to have balance and take care of yourself :>

      • Cricket01

        617d

        @SourLemons thank you, that’s super helpful. How do you keep a good balance when you always want to say no? Like do you ever just force yourself to go or just wait until you’re ready? Cuz like I don’t want to miss out but I also just wanna be alone, ya know?

        • Catlady121427

          616d

          @Cricket01 I understand completely....bcuz my hubby & son work...I spend alot of time alone..I think I've got to point that's all I want to do, be alone

        • SourLemons

          617d

          @Cricket01 for me, it's a day-to-day evaluation of what i need most for my mental health. somedays i just cannot get out of bed and know that if i step outside to meet people, i will black out on the sidewalk from exhaustion. other days i know i need to invest time into the people who care about me and give back to the relationship so that we grow closer. there's no spcific ratio of how many alone days to how many social days you should have, but i think being in tune with what you need should be at least a good starting point. i think it's also good to not think in absolutes. you don't have to make hours-long plans to be a good friend. just being intentional about asking how they're doing or even sending a funny meme you wanted them to see signals you value the relationship and want to be present in their life. small things go a long way :>

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