Boyfriend's sudden decision to join Navy causing anxiety

If you need to talk, I have a lot of experience.

I know this probably won't help but I got severely injured in training and now I live with a lot of nerve damage. But I saw my friend graduate and start his career. His life is going well. Going into the military is more of a risk than it is a danger. I have some bits of advice for him. -Go in the delayed entry program. Just do it, you'll be glad you did. You'll learn things that'll help you so much more. They'll teach you how to march, they'll teach you military knowledge you'll need to know, and more. Like a headstart. And it gives you and your family time to let it settle in. It'll click and you'll be more ready than if you just threw yourself into it. You can also back out during that time. Backing out once you're already at training up north takes weeks. I didn't back out, but I've been in the separations unit. It's miserable. They make you feel like a failure. -Choose your job at MEPS, the entrance program, before you are accepted. Don't go unassigned. They will put you in some crappy spot nobody wants to go. -Don't accept any promises from recruiters unless they put it in writing on your contract. -Male sure you're physically fit before you go. -If ANYTHING feels wrong in your body, go to medical ASAP. Don't try to tough it out. I have multiple spinal herniations and I almost ruptured my achilles while I was there but I said nothing. I got sent home and I get NO medical care over these injuries because they didn't diagnose them. I thought I was just weak but I was actually severely injured. -It's difficult but it's not scary. People let themselves panic and it only makes things worse. Just remember that the people training you are supposed to be assholes. It's their job to make you ready for anything. -Look forward to Battle Stations, it's actually fun and it's part of your graduation.

Hi, I understand you. Going to the army is dangerous. He will be far from you and very busy and will have less free time for you. I understand why it makes you anxious but you have to try to remember that in the end it's his life and his decisions and he has to make them alone. You as his partner should be as supportive as possible. Regardless, I think you should also talk to him and explain your concerns to him, that way he can be as supportive as possible.