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bookwormsb6

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I’m afraid to tell my mom that I think I’m autistic - all my life, any of the problems I’ve had, she’s blown off. I told her that I think I have depression, and she says, “no, you’re not depressed - you’re just too negative minded - you need to change your mindset”. When I have an anxiety attack, she says I’m throwing a fit - and I’m 20 years old. I don’t throw fits anymore - haven’t in a long time. I know she won’t take me seriously if I tell her that I think I have autism - she’s just gonna say that I’m just wanting attention, or something, or find another way to blow off my problems and the struggles I’m having, and try to gaslight me into thinking I’m making it all up. …. Has anybody else ever had a problem like this? Is there anything that helped? Or any tips that you have?

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    • littlebug

      746d

      No one will know you better than yourself. That's what I tell myself since my mom doesn't believe I am autistic either. My mom won't ever truly know me, and that's okay

    • littlebug

      746d

      No one will know you better than yourself. That's what I tell myself since my mom doesn't believe I am autistic either. My mom won't ever truly know me, and that's okay

    • Katty

      746d

      This is a roundabout way of saying I let my mom figure it out. ——————————— My mom has done similar things, but I don’t think she’s quite as dismissive. (For reference She asked me if I thought I was depressed and when I replied “probably” told me “no you’re definitely not depressed”. Denied my DIAGNOSISED ADHD constantly for 10 years. Encouraged me to keep counting calories when I was eating 600-1000 a day. Ect) When I first brought it up to her it was more of a “I have a lot of autistic traits. Huh kinda funny”. I then listed things I did and even pulled from the diagnostic criteria. At first her reaction was “if I’m going to have an autistic child it would be your brother. But they told me many times when you were kids that’s he’s not autistic.” [side note: he was told he wasn’t autistic bc he had one friend in elementary school where the parents scheduled play dates and they sat in the same room reading separate books. He literally has a stereotypical presentation and needs better doctors]. I didn’t say I thought I was autistic — actually I’m not diagnosed and propeturually unsure. I’m being evaluated in May and maintain that I’m not bc I would rather be wrong in that direction, but like I’m probably autistic. I watched some autistic creators YouTube videos with my mom and tried to explain to her why I didn’t think I’m autistic. My explanation of why I’m not autistic actually convinced my mom that I am. I basically let her come to the conclusion on her own. I don’t know if that would work in your case, but figured I would share.

    • Ezara

      746d

      well that sucks ass. maybe still try to get a therapist to reach out to. and start a go fund me to get money to move out!

    • bookwormsb6

      746d

      Unfortunately, I can’t blow off contact with her - don’t get me wrong, I’d love to, but I still live with her, and I can’t afford to move out. 😕

    • Ezara

      746d

      maybe get therapy or tell someone you trust! and if she doesnt take your mental health seriously then blow off all contact with her she isnt worth it

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