Feeling Useless: How to Cope with Disability Struggles

I feel like this too. For both physical and mental reasons I am unable to work and just applied for accommodations because of it. Every day I just hang out alone waiting for my boyfriend to get home from work. I feel worthless when I can't find the energy to do household chores while he's gone. It's even harder when no one believes me and they keep telling me to just suck it up and get a job.

We (as people in general) put our value as a person on our accomplishments, and when we aren't able to do anything/something then we feel like we don't have a purpose or have value. It's noy true, although I can see how it would feel that way and have experienced that myself. Probably the best advice I could give is not letting yourself have those negative thoughts about yourself and instead replacing them with what you are. That doesn't mean positive thinking will magically make everything go away, but if we can focus on somethings we can do even if it is just making it through the day then we are being productive in some way. I liked the suggestion of doing small things that you've wanted to do, and small things can literally be just getting out of bed. If you couldn't the day before then that's progress! This may sound weird but when I get frustrated and feel useless I try to tell myself that "my value as a person isn't determined by _______"(insert whatever I'm doing) and I try to list other things that I've done that day or just things that make me who I am. If I have a hard time, I think about what others would say they like about me. I also find that doing some kind of service or reaching out helps me feel better. It could be something moderate like doing dishes, or something smaller like texting someone just to check in. At least for me when I distract myself with doing something for someone else, I feel better. I hope this helps and good luck. These are tough feelings to fight.

I feel the same way trust me it’s not going to be easy my mom had to go through that and they didn’t even approve it because they would consider all of her conditions together unfortunately she got screwed by the system and had to start working again I hope that doesn’t happen to anyone else and I wish you luck! And feeling useless is the hardest part of some disabilities just know that your not alone and we are here to help and encourage you too!

Ive been feeling like this too lately. The only way ive been keeping myself sane is by doing little things that i wanted to do that i havent done bc ive been busy. Organizing small areas that allow me to sit down while I do them, cleaning out files i don't need from my phone and laptop, and a lot of shopping that i cant afford lol. Also remember that listening to your body and resting are just as productive as anything else💕