Advice on Moving Towards Self Love

Self neutrality was the best place for me to start anyways. It's a pretty simple concept, just recognizing and reminding yourself that you're a human being and you deserve the same basic things that all human beings need to thrive ie food, water, shelter, stability, love, and support. You're still young and it's not unheard of for people to not find someone who they're compatible with until they're young adults or even later, that doesn't mean they're any less than those who started dating earlier.

Another thing though, and I know this may be uncomfortable at first, but, stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful, say "I love you" to yourself. Notice the parts of you that you already like, and then try to focus on the parts of you that you don't like as much and compliment yourself, even if it feels wrong. And if you keep doing it, eventually you might start falling in love with the parts of yourself you aren't so sure about. Self love can be an extremely difficult journey, but just remember, you're human, and every human being is different

Something I do that helps me with my self love, is simply reminding myself that I'm human. I'm also gentle with myself when it comes to my emotions. I don't get upset with myself for feeling a strong emotion, I remind myself that emotions are normal and do what I need to do to get through those emotions. Even it's it's a nap, or just getting off of my phone for a little bit

First, you ARE enough. Second, in order for a relationship to be healthy you need to steer clear of the mentality that they will complete you, or make you happy, or make you feel better about yourself. Relationships are hard, and often can magnify insecurities we have. Something that has helped me a lot with self love is talking/taking care of myself in a way a loving mother would. I almost imagine myself as a young child that needs to be loved and taken care of, and it’s my responsibility to do so (bc if I was a mother I would do anything for my child and I’d love them unconditionally). So looking at it that way has really helped me. It feels really awkward and uncomfy first but if you keep going you start to actually become friends with yourself in a way, and it becomes more natural to be nurturing and kind to yourself. Having a partner will not make you happy and it will not complete you because that responsibility falls on yourself. In order to have a happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationship we must respect ourselves and be responsible for our own happiness first 💕 you can do it! I hope this is helpful, I’m super tired rn so I’m sorry if this is gibberish haha