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I fear that I’ll never experience a healthy relationship because of my disorder(s). I have very bad anxious attachments - which accompanied by autism (and possible ocd) makes it that much harder to create a healthy balance between life and a relationship. I become so obsessed with whoever I am interested in - even if its just a crush. I want to know everything about them… and get irrationally upset when I can’t. This obsession lasts longer than your typical “honeymoon phase”… my last relationship I thought about nothing but him for almost 2 years. I tend to overthink every single word they say or things they do and spend hours analyzing the situation: did I do something wrong? How can I fix it? Do they like me, do they hate me? Etc. It feels like regardless of how much effort the other person puts in I’m ALWAYS going to put in more - and it’s not good. I recognize this is unhealthy behavior- and I never take it out on anyone, I don’t even talk about it. But instead I just let the anxiety build up inside me and I’m constantly at war with myself. I don’t know what to do about it. Love is a very important aspect of my life… I would really like to have a partner who I can have a stable, balanced relationship with where they aren’t the only thing I think of - but I’m so afraid that will never happen.
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Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)
Anxiety (Including GAD)
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
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Oml me too
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Wow, felt like I was reading all my own fears. This is exactly why I'm so scared to enter a relationship at the moment
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exactly!!! and especially as someone who was given the "atypical"/"aspergers" label, although asp is incorrect and offensive in most cases; the apathy and trust issues help eachother 3
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I get like this, I’ve been in a relationship for a year and I actually had to have a discussion before hand about how I have these issues, he reminds me if im getting a bit much to someone else or him. I just try to notice and be more mindful of when it is a bad time to talk or think about them and redirect myself but it took a lot of practice. And I don’t know more than what you said, but the “do they hate me” spiral sounds like you might have a rejection sensitive dysphoria problem which is common with neurodivergent people! That might also be heightening your relationship anxiety.
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@Sydie_Bear yeah!! Having a discussion would seem to be the logical thing to do… but I always fear it’ll drive people away. People don’t really find it the most attractive thing… to be “obsessive” idk :p I’ll look into the dysphoria thing!! Thanks so much!!
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