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Hay.tg

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I recently broke up with my girlfriend. The reasons are I feel like she is not right for me and she can't understand my depression. Whenever I told her I am not feeling good, she replied why didn't you just ignore it if something is annoying you? However, it is not that easy for me and seems it like she thinks I am joking. After I said to break up with her, she said I am selfish and only think of myself. Am I actually how she said? Because of this, I feel like whatever I did is wrong.

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    • Hay.tg

      472d

      @AnimalBoy Thank you. There is a lot need to learn in a relationship...

    • Brainiac5

      472d

      I had a similar experience. He always said that my health was so important to him. But when it came down to it, he didn’t understand or care that I needed space or that having a bad day meant I didn’t want to talk or do anything even with him. Like he’d always say ‘I’m not anyone, I’m you’re boyfriend’ as if it made him exempt. Among other things he had such a double standard with it cause his problems with ocd and stuff, meant I had to do things his way, even though it affected me with my ocd, depression and anxiety. Then he’d just get mad and say horrible things and expect me to apologise for not having done things his ‘right’ way.

      • Hay.tg

        472d

        @Brainiac5 Thank you for sharing your story. Would you mind if you share your solution as well, did you guys still stay together? My gf did emotional blackmail on me, and I hate that so much

        • Brainiac5

          472d

          @Hay.tg No, I broke up with him a month ago after some things he said. It was the last straw and I couldn’t take it or him. After the silence and realising I meant it he was none stop messaging, apologising and asking for another chance, saying he knew what he did was wrong and he wouldn’t again. But it just felt like he was trying to manipulate me back into a relationship. Saying how we were meant for each other, etc. and driving down to my house and dropping off chocolates. I just kept telling him it was over and I didn’t want him in my life, but he just kept messaging making different accounts, saying how hard it had been not talking for so long, and not seeing me. Cause he ‘put everything into the relationship.’ He even messaged my parents and my friend trying to get me to talk to him. Even messaged before Christmas asking if it was okay that he get me a funko pop. As if I still wanted anything from him. It’s just so hard to move on and get past it when he won’t leave me alone. I mean, if he thinks after everything that happened, I would give him a second chance. Why would everything he’s done since make his chance any better.

    • AnimalBoy

      473d

      If you don't feel like you're compatible or doing well with a person you're in a relationship with you have every right to leave the relationship regardless of reason, it's you're decision. But it was also probably a pretty good idea to break up with her, obviously I don't know the full story but you clearly feel like she was unsupportive of your mental health when you need her support. Your feelings should be taken seriously and you should be able to talk about it with your partner.

      • Hay.tg

        472d

        @AnimalBoy Thank you. There is a lot need to learn in a relationship...

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