Hi, I’m new on here and I’m going through a pretty tough time. Does anyone have any advice about healing from a break up? Specifically about not letting this set back bring me through a spiral and picking myself back up.
I write in my journal.
I think this is helpful! Write everything you feel bottled up. After a while you’ll run out of things to say and feel a lot better. I used to think writing things down wasn’t going to help but it really does.
My best suggestion is to force yourself to do things. Go out with friends. Work on a fun project or start a new show series.
Honestly... After two years finally coming out on the other end of the grief of a difficult breakup, i've realized you kinda need to just let yourself feel all the feelings, even if it does cause you to spiral a bit... If you repress, the spiral will only grow stronger and last longer. Allow yourself to really process all the sadness and anger you have hiding under the surface. Write a lot. Create things when you're feeling emotional, if you enjoy artistic projects. Maybe even throw some stuff and break things (wreck rooms are really cool if you have one nearby). Honor the past by remembering the "good" AND "bad" parts of the relationship and let yourself cry a lot. Make sure to keep a social life and grow your circle to keep yourself growing and easing forward. And when you've processed it nearly to death, even if it still hurts some, slowly start dating again. Casually, but with intent to treat yourself well through cool people you'll meet that will show you there's still life out there. Take or leave any of that... But just make sure to honor yourself through this all. You matter and you're lovely. 💕
thank you, this is a very nice message. As much as I am missing this relationship and remembering a lot of the good times, I’ve been trying to remind myself why it can’t work, at least not right now. It hurts, but I know I’ll be able to move on eventually :)
I've noticed that letting myself indulge in uncomfortable feelings can be beneficial. For a long time I avoided sad songs/shows/movies/etc because I didn't want to be reminded, but I think it ended up just suppressing those emotions and they were still always there.
I dont know what will help (here in the comments to see what will 😅) but I know avoiding it only makes it last longer.
that’s exactly what I’ve been doing. It seems like every little thing reminds me of what I’m going through so I’ve been trying to distract myself
A warm shower or bath to rinse off and feel clean and it helps even more if you listen to music and just get your emotions out.
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